Don’t let anybody mess with your Zen !!!

An old man, a boy and a donkey were going to town. The boy rode on the donkey and the old man walked. As they went along they passed some people who remarked it was a shame that the old man was walking and the boy was riding. The man and boy thought maybe the critics were right, so they changed positions.
Later, they passed some people who remarked, "What a shame; he makes that little boy walk." Then they decided that they both would walk! Soon they passed some more people who thought they were stupid to walk when they had a decent donkey to ride. So they both rode the donkey.
Now they passed people who shamed them by saying how awful to put such a load on a poor donkey. The boy and man said they were probably right, so they decided to carry the donkey. As they crossed the bridge, they lost their grip on the animal, and he fell into the river and drowned.
In a world full of opinions, it is difficult not to be carried away by it. But the moment you realize that you don’t have to please everyone, you actually start living. This is true in all aspects of life.
Whatever you do, every by passer would have an opinion on the same. It’s up to you what to take and what not to take. If that opinion can yield you positive results, don’t shy away from accepting it. Similarly, if you know that it’s not going to do any good, be courageous enough to ignore it. You have every right to do what is right and good for you even if it doesn’t please everyone.
You could be the sweetest, juiciest, most delicious peach in the world and there are still going to be people who don’t like peaches, and that’s ok!
Get super clear on what you want, what your goals are, what you want you want your life to look like and what makes you happy. As long as you are not doing any harm or hurting anyone, don’t let anybody mess with your Zen!


Peace lies within you…

A group of highly established alumni got together to visit their old university professor. The conversation among them soon turned into complaints about their stressful work and life. The professor went to his kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups, including porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain-looking, some expensive and some exquisite. The professor told them to help themselves with the coffee.
After all the students had a cup of coffee in their hands, the professor said: “Did you notice all the nice-looking cups are taken and only the plain inexpensive ones are left behind. While it is normal for everyone to want the best for themselves, but that is the source of problems and stress in your life. The cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most of the cases, it’s just more expensive and hides what we drink.”, the professor continued.
“What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but all of you consciously went for good looking expensive cups and then began eyeing on each other’ s cups.”
Sometimes we fail to enjoy the coffee by concentrating only on the cup we have. Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life. Being happy doesn’t mean everything’s around you is perfect. It means you’ve decided to see beyond the imperfections and find peace. And the peace lies within you…

Be kind always...

One day Anita, a 11 year old went to her mother to complain. “I can’t manage to have friends. They all stay away from me though I desperately try to be nice”
Her mother was taking care of newly - born chickens, and Anita held up one of them, which immediately tried to escape. The more the girl squeezed it in her hands, the more the chicken struggled.
Her mother said: “Try holding it gently.”
Anita obeyed her. She opened her hands and the chicken stopped struggling. She began to stroke it and the chicken cuddled up between her fingers.
“Human beings are like that too” said her mother, “If you want to hold onto them by any means, they escape. But if you are kind to them, they will remain for ever by your side.”
Always choose kindness over being nice.
Niceness stays quiet; Kindness speaks up. Niceness is toxic; Kindness is healing.
Niceness lies to keep peace; Kindness knows the only way to make peace is to tell the truth.
Niceness holds back. Kindness moves forward with humility, gentleness & grace.

who’s rainbow are you chasing??

One day a young man on his journey home came to the banks of a wide river. He also noticed a monk on the other side of the river. He suddenly had a strong desire to cross and go to the other side of the river but had no clue on how to do that.
He thought for a long time and finally just as he was about to give up his pursuit, he thought of asking the monk for an advice. The young man yelled over to the monk, “Oh wise one, can you tell me how to get to the other side of this river”?
The monk ponders for a moment, looks up and down the river and yells back, “My son, you are on the other side”.    
More than often we all fall victim to this situation in our lives; chasing someone else’s definition of success. We blindly idealize the life and journey of others without focussing on what we actually need. In the worst, you end up not achieving it and feel like a loser. In the best, you achieve it and is not even sure if that is what you really wanted.
So, who’s rainbow are you chasing?? Is the success that you are chasing your own or did someone else lend you their beliefs and ideas about it? Reflect on this thought once in a while and that would help to find our direction. When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you.

Going up...

In the middle of a storm, a pilgrim reaches an inn and the owner asks where he is going.
“I’m going to the mountains,” he answers.
“Forget it,” says the innkeeper, “it’s a risky climb, and the weather is awful.”
“But I’m going up,” answers the pilgrim, “if my heart gets there first, it will be easy to follow it with my body.”
What the pilgrim said conveys a very strong message that can change our lives. Every second in our lives, it is the possibility that keeps us going; not the guarantee. We are what we believe. Believe you deserve it and the universe will serve it.

"Everything changes”

A student asked a Zen master, Suzuki Roshi, during one of his lectures, “Can you explain Buddhism in just one phrase?"
Suzuki smiled and said, "Everything changes”
One of the foremost teachings in Buddhism is that everything in life is impermanent. You are impermanent, your loved ones are impermanent, your home is impermanent, even our planet is impermanent.
This teaches us that grasping onto things is one of the major reasons as to why we suffer. We need to live being aware of the ever-changing nature of reality and appreciate the present moment. It's not about letting go, it's really about not grasping in the first place. If we can learn to live in this way, we can find peace in everyday life.
Stop holding on to your past mistakes. Stop holding on to grudges. Stop holding on to people and things that are not serving your soul.
Change is the only constant in life. If you want to fly, learn to gracefully walk away from the things that are weighing you down. Because if you keep holding on to it, you will miss the magic of the present moment.


Be Your Boss...

A horse suddenly came galloping quickly down the road. It seemed as though the man had somewhere important to go.
Another man, who was standing alongside the road, shouted, "Where are you going?" and the man on the horse replied,
"I don't know! Ask the horse!"
This is a short but well-known Zen story with a powerful meaning behind it. The horse symbolizes our habit energy. The story explains the way we usually live, at the mercy of our old habit energies which have been established not by our intentional actions, but by our surroundings and mindless activity.
The horse is pulling us along, making us run here and there and hurry everywhere and we don't even know why. If you stopped to ask yourself from time to time why exactly you're running around so much, sometimes you might have an answer, but it's never a very good one. You're just used to it; it's how we're taught to live.
But as much as we run, it gets us nowhere. We need to learn how to take back the reigns and let the horse know who's boss.
You're the boss, you've always been the boss, so start acting like it.

‘WORDS’ – The sharpest thing in the world.

Words are free. It’s how you use them that may cost you. They have the energy and power to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to humiliate and to humble. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively with words of despair.
One kind word can change the whole day for a person and on the other hand one hurtful word can create a wound that might last forever.
Moreover, our words impact ourselves. In our thoughts and words, we create our own weaknesses and our own strengths, our limitations and our joys.
Every time, before you voice your opinion, let your words go through these three filters:
1. Is it true?
2. Is it good/kind?
3. Is it useful/necessary?
Imagine how different the world would be if we only chose to seek or create words that were true, good, or useful….

So ASK …

Have you ever wondered why some of us always end up in the right places and some of us are always clueless? Ever thought why some people always have the right answers and some people are always wondering and trying to sort things out? We conveniently choose to believe that some of us are more fortunate than others.
But the truth is some of us are brave to ask for solutions and to ask for what we want.
You get in life what you have the courage to ask for. If you don’t ask the answer will always be ‘No’. If you don’t step forward you will always be in the same place. If you don’t go behind what you want you will never have it.
So ASK …

We need to learn to capture every opportunity

One day the two fishermen were fishing in a nearby pond. They both had packed utensils, cooking accessories, ingredients and fishing equipment. Once they arrived at the pond, they chose to sit at a distance to hunt for fishes. The first fisherman caught a big and beautiful fish within a few minutes. He was very happy. He then placed the fish in the ice box to retain its freshness and planned to cook it in the noon. He caught a few more other small fishes after a while. He froze a few fishes to take it back home. After about an hour of fishing, the first fisherman offered to help the second fisherman. The second man politely declined. And then the second fisherman also caught a large fish. Surprisingly, he threw it back into the pond.
The first man was bewildered by his act. He remained silent as he watched the second man capture many big fishes only to have them thrown back into the water. The first fisherman, annoyed by this act, retorted, ‘Why are you throwing the fishes back into the water? They were beautiful and big!’
The second fisherman replied, ‘I know they were big, but I don’t have a big pan to cook the big fishes! So, I’m looking for a smaller fish that fits my cooking pan!” The first fisherman was startled by the response. He advised the second fisherman to cut the big fish into pieces to fit them into the small pan.
Many of us are just like the second fisherman. We tend to overlook a handful of opportunities, chances and even fortune that come in our way because we are too stubbornly looking for what we want. We need to learn to capture every opportunity and work it out so that it will fit into our lives perfectly.

Let us change our vision

There once lived a wealthy man who was bothered by severe eye pain. He consulted many physicians, but none could treat his ache.  He went through a myriad of treatment procedures, but his pain persisted. He looked for every available solution for his pain, and finally approached a wise monk, renowned for treating various illnesses. The monk carefully observed the man’s eyes and offered a very peculiar solution.
The monk told the man to concentrate only on green colour for a few weeks and avoid any other colours. The man was desperate to get rid of the pain and was determined to go to any extent. The wealthy man appointed a group of painters and purchased barrels of green paint and directed that every object, his eye was likely to fall to be painted green.
After a few weeks the monk came to visit the man to follow up on his progress. As the monk walked towards the man’s room, the appointed painter poured a bucket of green paint on the monk.  The monk could see that the whole corridor and the room was painted green. As the monk inquired for the reason for painting everything green, the wealthy man said that he was only following the monk’s advice to look at only green.
Hearing this, the monk laughed and said “If only you had purchased a pair of green spectacles, worth just a few dollars, you could have saved a large share of your fortune. You cannot paint the world green.”
Let us change our vision and the world will appear accordingly.

You are capable of amazing things!!!

A little wave was bobbing along in the ocean and was having a great time. He was enjoying the wind and the fresh air as it travelled– until he noticed that all the other waves in front of him were crashing against the shore. “Oh My God, this terrible”, The little wave thought. “Look what is happening to all the other waves and I will have to face the same fate!”
When the little wave was in the state of panic another wave came across and asked the little wave, “Why are you distressed my friend?”
The little wave said, “We are all going to crash against the shore and face our end! All of us waves are going to be nothing! Isn’t it terrible?”
The second wave answered with a smile, “No, you don’t understand. You’re not just a wave, you are a part of the ocean.”
Don’t underestimate yourself. You have far more potential than you likely realize. You are capable of amazing things!!!

Don’t give up

A marine biologist was involved in an experiment with a shark. He placed a shark in a tank along with other small bait fishes. As expected, the shark ate every single fish.
The marine biologist then inserted a clear fiberglass to create two sections within the tank.  He placed the shark in one section and smaller fished in the other section. The shark quickly attacked, but then he bounced off the fiberglass. The shark kept on repeating this behaviour. It just wouldn’t stop trying while the small fish in the other section remained unharmed and carefree. After about an hour, the shark finally gave up.
This experiment was repeated several dozen times over the next few weeks. Each time, the shark got less aggressive. Eventually the shark got tired and simply stopped attacking altogether.
The marine biologist then removed the fiberglass. The shark, however, didn’t attack. It was trained to believe in the existence of a barrier between it and the bait fish.
Many of us, after experiencing setbacks and failures, emotionally give up and stop trying. Like the shark, we chose to stay with past failure and believe that we will always be unsuccessful. We build a barrier in our heads, even when no ‘real’ barrier between where we are and where we want to go.
Don’t give up. Keep trying because success may be just a try away !!!

The universe always fall in love with a stubborn heart!!

Don’t we all get restless and start losing hope when something doesn’t work out or happen within the time, we expected it to? It’s funny how being a child we fancy the unimaginable and as we grow up, we limit our thoughts and refuse to believe in magic and are scared to think out of the way that we are used to.
The truth is, beautiful things have a way of happening in our life when we least expect it. But only if you believe in it. If not for men who believed in their wildest imaginations this world wouldn’t have been what is today.              
Every invention that we admire was once a mad idea that people made fun of and called unrealistic.
Each unbelievable accomplishment that we look up to for inspiration came from an individual who believed in the potential of his farthest imagination.
Always leave some room in your heart for the unexpected and believe in magic because the universe always fall in love with a stubborn heart!!

Believe me. It works

A man got lost in a desert and had exhausted all the water he had carried a couple of days ago. He knew for sure that if he didn’t get some water he would certainly die. Yet he didn’t give up hope. He walked looking for some sign of good fortune. Suddenly he saw a small house at some distance. ‘Could it be a mirage’ he thought. But having no other option he edged closer only to realize that the hut was real. He dragged his tired body inside the hut hoping that he would find some water inside it. The hut was empty and looked like was abandoned for quite some time. His heart skipped a beat when he noticed a hand pump in one corner of the hut. He began working the hand pump but no water came down. Despite trying several times he gave up out of frustration and exhaustion.
That is when he noticed another ray of hope. He noticed a bottle which was filled with water and corked up so that the water doesn’t evaporate. He uncorked the bottle and as he was just about to devour the life-giving water, he noticed a piece of paper attached to it. It said “Use this water to start the pump. Don’t forget to refill the bottle when you are done”. He was now in a dilemma. What if he put the water into the pump and it didn’t work. And then maybe, the information was correct also. But if it turned out to be wrong he would be throwing away the last water he would ever see.
Many people, when confronted by a situation like this, don’t make a decision because they fear the consequences and they continue to remain confused in their lives.
The man made his decision. He poured the water into the pump, said a prayer and started working the pump and water came down gushing out way more than he could possibly use. He drank the cool refreshing water to his heart’s content and quenched his thirst. He filled up his flask for the rest of the journey ahead and as per the instruction on the bottle, also filled up the bottle, put the cork back in and before leaving the hut he added his own lines below the instruction, “Use this water to start the pump. Don’t forget to refill the bottle when you are done. Believe me. It works!”.
Most of us may not be confronted by a situation like this where the choice we make decides whether we live or die. Yet we have our own choices to make. If the choice we make goes our way-fantastic. We can inspire people by telling them, “Believe me. It works!”.
And if doesn’t go our way, we can share our mistakes, our experiences, our realisations and empower people to make their right choices.
In the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take….



“There is only one way to avoid criticism. Do nothing. Be nothing. Say nothing” -Aristotle
Truer words were never spoken. If you have stood for something in your life, tried something new, tried to bring a change, it is inevitable that you will have people who holds an opinion against yours and people who would try to pull you down. Never be distracted by criticisms. Remember, the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite of yours. The ones who are trying to pull you down are already below you.
Our greatest glory is in never falling but in rising every time we fall. That’s what defines you…
And most importantly, be an encourager. The world has plenty of critics already. Cheer for people. Give them constructive feedbacks. There is enough sun for everyone !!


Today is a new beginning. The start of a new financial year. It’s time for new challenges, new goals and new learnings. This year let’s make a promise to ourselves that we will not settle down for anything less than excellence.
Excellence can be obtained if you care more than others think is wise, risk more than others think is safe, dream more than others think is practical, expect more than others think is possible. And once you have experienced excellence you will never again be content with mediocrity…

All we have is now

We all have been victims to procrastination at some point in our life. You wanted to do something but then you decide to do it later. You wanted to take an initiative or start a habit but then you decide to wait for an ideal moment to do so. This is the biggest mistake that we all commit in our lives, waiting for the opportune moment…
Waiting is what kills most of our dreams. Don’t search for defining moments because they will never come. Every single moment of our life holds a million possibilities and every day we pass by these life changing moments without realizing its potential. Don’t wait for the world to tell you that you are ready. The world might tell you that you are not allowed to do it yet. Give yourself the permission to fail and just do it!
You might get a little derailed at times. You might fall hard and hurt yourself. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better. And in the end, when you look back you will realize that you were blooming all the way. The flowers will remind you why the rain was so necessary.
Every day morning when you open your eyes you are presented with a day full of opportunities and it’s your choice whether to seize the day or let the day seize you. No moment is more important, more perfect than right now. And it is this very moment that defines your success tomorrow.
Have been wanting to share an idea for long…do it today!
Have been wanting to start a new habit for long…do it today!
Have been wanting to organize your work and routine better for long…start today!
Have been wanting to share an honest feedback to someone for long…today would be the perfect day!


We have our own flaws

A young woman worked for a merchant who lived on top of a hill. She worked as the merchant’s laundress and every day she had to walk down the hill to collect water from a stream. She had two pots to carry water, which she hung upon a pole she could carry over her shoulders. With time one of her pot got a slender crack along its side. She observed the cracks on the pot and decided she could still use it.
Every day, the woman carried those pots down the hill to the stream, filled them to the brim, and walked back up the hill, balancing the pole across her shoulders. By the time she reached the house, the cracked pot would be only half full while the other pot delivered a full portion of water.
The cracked pot glanced at the other pot and saw water filled to the top, and it began to feel desolate. The full pot was proud of its accomplishment while the cracked pot felt ashamed and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it was meant to.             
After few years of what the cracked pot perceived to be a failure, it spoke to the lady. “I apologize for my flaws. The crack on my side, has made me useless. I spill half of the water. I’m of no good!” the pot said.
The lady felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and she said, ”But pot, you don’t understand, You haven’t been paying attention. Look around you. As we return to the master’s house, I want you to look at the path we traverse”.
The next time when the lady carried the water up to the hill, the pot carefully observed the path up the hill. For the first time the pot stopped looking inward and instead looked out. On his side of the trail the pot noticed beautiful flowers growing in abundance while the other side was still dry.
As the women reached the top of the hill, she asked “Did you notice the beautiful flowers on the path? They are only on your side of the path. I had always known about your cracks and I took advantage of it to water those beautiful flowers along the way. Without you being just the way you are, the path uphill would not have this beauty.”
The cracked pot was overjoyed. All its sadness was gone. He understood that the very thing he thought to be his flaws turned out to be a blessing for the flowers along the path.
Every one of us is unique and we have our own flaws. And it is our little quirks and faults that make us and the world so interesting.


Feel Alive 

We live in a consumer culture. We love to eat, drink, and be merry—while binge watching whatever’s trending on Netflix and getting a dopamine hit for every item added to our cart on Amazon Prime. We love to take it all in—information, entertainment, status updates, news reports, substances, and an endless array of stuff. There’s never a shortage of things we can consume, often to keep our minds distracted and our feelings silenced.
It is important to stay educated and updated. At the same time, we all get an instinct to shut down for a while. A little disengagement can be a good thing in a world that often requires us to be on. And yes, there needs to be a balance. Instead of constantly stuffing yourself with external pleasures, fill your mind with curiosity, passion and enthusiasm and create things for yourself.
What are some things we can create?
A mission statement: Many of us go through our days without a sense of purpose. We have no idea what we value or what we stand for. We have no idea what we’re really doing with our lives, or why. Nothing feels exciting when nothing is fuelled by passion or intention.
In order to feel alive, we need to be connected to what matters to us most, individually. Create a blueprint for how you want to show up in the world so you can be the person you want to be and make decisions that feel right for you. This doesn’t have to be set in stone. Mission statements change over time as we grow and evolve. So write, revisit, and revise, as often you feel necessary.
A medium for self-expression: We live in an exciting time for self-expression. No longer do any authorities get to decide whose words deserve a platform. Anyone can start a blog, vlog, or podcast to share their thoughts and views with the world. Not only will you give yourself an opportunity to express your feelings and feel truly seen, you’ll likely also help other people through your honesty and vulnerability.
Memories: At the end of it all, when we look back on our lives, what we’ll see is a collection of moments—times when we loved, connected, got outside our comfort zone, and engaged with the world with wonder and enthusiasm. We can create magic for ourselves, someone else, or both, if we’re willing to prioritize it and put in the effort.
Possibilities: There are a lot of us who feel pretty discontent with our lives. Most of us merely survive. Some of us are born into more ideal circumstances, and some get more advantages. But perhaps the problem isn’t just that not everyone gets the same chances, but also that not everyone takes the same chances. If we settle into a pit of discontentment and do the same things every day, nothing will ever change. The only way to make our lives any better is find and seize opportunities instead of waiting for them to come to us.
Make the call. Send the email. Sign up for the course. Do something to create new possibility for your life, whether it pertains to your work, your hobbies, or your relationships.
New Connections: We live in an increasingly disconnected world. We spend more time holding devices than hands and look into more screens than eyes. This is such a lonely way to live. But it doesn’t have to be like this. Not if we prioritize forming and maintaining relationships. It can be challenging to pull ourselves away from our usual indulgences, get outside our little bubble of comfort, and get present in the world beyond our own door. But it’s so worth it. It can feel awkward to initiate conversation with someone new. Make the first move anyways. You just might change two lives.

Monkey and Apple

There once lived a free-spirited monkey in a beautiful jungle. He spent his days wandering the jungle, climbing trees, eating delicious fruits and resting. One day while wandering around he came very close to the nearby village. He looked inside a house in the village and saw a bowl of red ripe apples. He couldn’t hold his urge to eat it, so he grabbed one in each hand and ran back into the forest. He sniffed the apples, but it smelled nothing. He tried to eat them, but he hurt his teeth. The apples were made of wood, but they looked delicious. When the other monkeys of the jungle saw the apples, he held onto them even tighter.
He proudly admired his new possessions as he wandered the jungle. The wooden apples glistened red in the sun and seemed perfect to him. He was so enticed by them, that he even forgot about his hunger.
He was walking near a fruit tree when the smell of the ripe fruit reminded him of his hunger.  He wanted to grab a ripe fruit and eat it but he had the apples in his hands. He couldn’t let go of the wooden apples to reach for the fruit. He was too afraid to lose the apples and felt the need to protect it. The monkey was very proud of the apples, but he was not happy.
As he held the apples longer, it started to feel heavier. The poor little monkey thought about keeping it down for a while but letting go of such a valuable thing seemed crazy.

Addled to genius

One day the young Thomas Edison came home and handed a paper to his mother from his school. He told her, “My teacher gave this paper to me and told me to give it only to you.”
His mother’s eyes were tearful as she read the letter out loud to her son. “Your son is a genius. This school is too small for him and doesn’t have good teachers for training him. Please teach him yourself.”
After years, Edison’s mother died, and he was renowned as one of the greatest inventors of the century. One day he was going through his old family things. Suddenly, he noticed a folded paper in the corner of a drawer. He took it and opened it up.
On the paper was written: “Your son is addled. We won’t let him come to school anymore.”
Thomas Edison cried for hours and then he wrote in his diary: “Thomas Alva Edison was an addled child that, by a hero mother, became the genius of the century.”
No one has the power to shatter your dreams unless you give it to them !!


The secret of happiness

Once a young man wanted to learn about the secret of happiness from the wisest man on the earth. The lad wandered through the desert, mountains, and plains to find the wisest man in the land. He finally reached to a beautiful castle in the high atop of a mountain where a very wise man was said to reside.
The young man had imagined the wise man to live like a sage with modest and quiet lifestyle. But to his surprise, he was not at all like a sage. He saw lots of activities happening in the castle. Tradesmen came and went, people were conversing in the corners, a small orchestra was playing soft music, and finally he saw a table covered with platters of the most delicious food in the part of the world.
The wise man conversed with everyone, and the young man had to wait for several hours to meet him. The wise man listened attentively to the young man’s curiosity to know about the secret of happiness and then replied that he didn’t have time to explain the secret of happiness at that moment. But, he suggested the young man to have look around his castle and its beauty and uniqueness and return in two hours. He also assigned a task to the man. He handed over a teaspoon to the man which had two drops of oil. The wise man said to the young lad ” As you wander around, carry this spoon with you without allowing the oil to spill.”
The Young man began climbing and descending the many stairways of the palace, keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. After two hours, he returned to the room where the wise man was. ”Well,” asked the wise man, “Did you see the Persian embroideries that are hanging in my dining hall? Did you see the garden that it took the master gardener ten years to create? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in the library?”
The boy was embarrassed and confessed that he had observed nothing. His only concern had been not to spill the oil that the wise man entrusted to him.
“Then go back and observe the marvels of my world, “said the wise man. Relieved, the boy picked up the spoon and returned to his exploration of the palace, this time more conscious about the surroundings and observing all of the works of art on the ceilings and the walls. Upon returning to the wise man, he explained in detail everything he had seen. ”But where are the drops of oil I entrusted to you?” asked the wise man.
Looking down the spoon he held, the boy saw that the oil was gone. ”Well, there is only one piece of advice I can give you, “said the wisest man, “The secret of happiness is to see all the marvels of the world, and never to forget the drops of oil on the spoon.”


Are you really rich? 

More than often people connect success to being rich. And there is no one on this planet who doesn’t want to be rich. So… how do you become rich??
Before we speak about becoming rich, let’s reflect on the concept of being rich. Does having a lot of money make you rich and give you a happy and fulfilling life?
Whether you drive a Volkswagen or you drive a Bentley, the road remains the same.
Whether you speak on Samsung or you speak on an Iphone, the person you are speaking to and what you are speaking remains the same.
Whether you are flying economy or you are flying business class, the destination where you are heading to remains the same.
Whether you are wearing a Fastrack or a Rolex, the time remains the same.
It’s quite amazing how we work ourselves up so much with increasing the standard of living that we forget to increase the standard of our life.                           
There is nothing wrong with a Bentley or a Rolex. May God bless you with that and if you have it, use it also. But in trying to enhance and improvise the standard of your living, never compromise on the standard of your life because it is always the standard of your life that makes you happy. And more than often, we forget to give attention to the very things that can make us truly happy.
Some people are so poor that all they have is money. There is way more to life than what money can buy. If you truly want to know how rich you are, drop a tear and see how many hands come forth to wipe it.
Aim to be rich in knowledge, love, laughter, adventures, health and family. Because that is what increase the standard of your life. Count all the things that you have that money cannot buy and that’s how rich you are!!

The successful warrior

A farmer and his dog used to sit by roadside in the evenings. The dog would wait for vehicles to come around and as soon as any vehicle came, it would run behind it down the road, barking, trying to overtake it and catch it. The farmer’s neighbour used to see this and one day out of curiosity he asked the farmer, “Do you think your dog is ever going to catch a car?”
The farmer replied, “ That’s not what I am bothered about. What bothers me is what he would do if he ever caught one!”
This is very much true when it comes to our lives also. It is your focus that determines your reality. Don’t get distracted by things that has nothing to do with your goals. Prioritize your life goals and work goals and act accordingly. In the end, how you spend your time and where you focus your attention will determine how successful you are. Review your goals twice everyday in order to be focused on achieving them.
Feed your focus and starve your distractions because you will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks. The successful warrior is the average man with laser-like focus.


Two sisters were once quarrelling over a single orange. One of them wanted the orange for the rind and the other one wanted the orange for the juice. Finally, the sisters cooperatively agreed to cut the orange in half – a compromise agreement. One sister uses the juice and throws the rind away; the other sister uses the rind and throws the juice away, and then they realize, too late, that both sisters would have been far better off by giving all the juice to one sister and all the rind to the other sister.
This is what is meant by “win-win” negotiation agreements, which are described as outcomes that improve upon mutual settlement by identifying ways that both parties receive better outcomes than by simply compromising on the issues at hand. The law if win-win says, “Let’s not do it your way or my way; Let’s do it the best way.”

It is never late to start over

More than a decade ago, a man was reading his morning newspaper. To his surprise and horror, he read his name in the obituary column. The newspapers had mistakenly reported the death of the wrong person for sure. He was shocked to read news headline about his death. When he regained his composure, He read it to find out what people had said about him.
The news included sentences like, “Dynamite King Dies.” and “He was the merchant of death.”. The man was the inventor of dynamite and when he read the words “merchant of death,” he asked himself a question,
“Is this how I am going to be remembered?” he asked himself. He decided that this was not the way he wanted to be remembered and he decided to change.
From that day on, he started working toward world peace. His name was Alfred Nobel and he is remembered today by the great Nobel Prize, the greatest of all the prizes.      
The Nobel Prize has been honouring men and women from all corners of the globe for outstanding achievements in physics, chemistry, medicine, literature, and for work in peace since 1901. The foundations for the prize were laid in 1895 when Alfred Nobel wrote his last will, leaving much of his wealth to the establishment of the Nobel Prize.
It is never late to start over and create a new vision for your future. It is never too late to reinvent yourself.

Give your best

A carpenter with years of experience, was ready to retire. He communicated his contractor about his plans to leave the house building business to live a more leisurely retired life with his wife and family. The contractor felt a little upset that his good and experienced carpenter was leaving the job, but he requested the carpenter to build just one more house for him.
The carpenter agreed with contractor but his heart was not in his work like it used to be. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials for building the last house of his career. It was an unfortunate way to end his career. When the carpenter completed the house and the employer came to inspect the house.                 
He looked around the house and just before he exited the house he handed the front-door key to the carpenter. “This is your house,” he said, “my gift to you.”  This was a huge surprise to the carpenter. Although it was supposed to be a good surprise, he wasn’t feeling good as he felt a deep shame inside him. If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently. Now he had to live in the home that wasn’t built that well.
Like the carpenter, we build our lives in a distracted way, reacting rather than acting, willing to put up with less rather than the best. Give your best. Your attitudes and the choices you make today will be your life tomorrow, build it wisely.

Every individual has his flaws

It was one of the coldest winters and many animals were dying because of the cold. The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together to keep each other warm. This was a great way to protect themselves from cold and keep each of them warm; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions.
After a while, they decided to distance themselves, but they too began to die due to cold. So, they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or choose death. Wisely, they decided to go back to being together. They learned to live with the little wounds caused by the close relationship with their companions in order to receive the warmth of their togetherness. This way they were able to survive.
Every individual has his flaws. In fact our flaws are what makes us unique. Accept, respect and embrace each other for what they truly are. That’s how we make long lasting relationships. Be it at your workplace or personal life, it is important to value the other person’s individuality.

The world is a big mirror

Once a dog ran into a museum filled with mirrors. The museum was very unique, the walls, the ceiling, the doors and even the floors were made of mirrors. Seeing his reflections, the dog froze in surprise in the middle of the hall. He could see a whole pack of dogs surrounding him from all sides, from above and below.
The dog bared his teeth and barked all the reflections responded to it in the same way. Frightened, the dog barked frantically, the dog’s reflections imitated the dog and increased it many times. The dog barked even harder, but the echo was magnified. The dog tossed from one side to another while his reflections also tossed around snapping their teeth.
Next morning, the museum security guards found the miserable, lifeless dog, surrounded by thousands of reflections of the lifeless dog. There was nobody to harm the dog. The dog died by fighting with his own reflections.
Moral: The world doesn’t bring good or evil on its own. Everything that is happening around us is the reflection of our own thoughts, feelings, wishes and actions. The World is a big mirror. So, let’s strike a good pose!


Commitment and trust

A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of beautiful marbles. The girl had some delicious candies with her. The boy offered to give the girl all his marbles in exchange for all her candies. The girl agreed. The boy gave all the marbles to the girl, but secretly kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble for himself. The girl gave him all her candies as she had promised. That night, the girl slept peacefully. But the boy couldn’t sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some more tasty candies from him the way he had hidden his best marble. If you don’t give your hundred percent in a relationship, be it personal relationship or professional relationship, you’ll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her hundred percent. When you make a commitment, you build hope. When you keep it, you build trust.

Listen to the whisper or wait for the brick

A successful young executive was riding his brand-new Jaguar down a neighbourhood street when he noticed a kid darting out from between parked cars. As he passed by, a brick smashed into his car’s door. He slammed on the brakes and drove back to the place where the brick has been thrown.
The furious man jumped out of his car and caught the nearest kid shouting, “What was that all about? What the heck did you do to my car? Why did you do it?”. The young boy was little scared but was very polite and apologetic. “I am sorry Mister. I didn’t know what else to do,” he pleaded. “I had to throw the brick because no one else would stop for my call to help”.  With tears rolling down his cheeks, he pointed towards the parked cars and said “it’s my brother, he rolled off the curb and fell off his wheelchair and he is badly hurt. I can’t lift him up.”
The sobbing boy asked the man, “Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He is hurt and he is too heavy for me.” The young man was moved beyond words and tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He hurriedly lifted the other kid from the spot and put him back to the wheelchair. He also helped the little kid with his bruises and cuts.
When he thought that everything will be ok, he went back to his car. “Thank you, sir, and God bless you”, said the grateful kid. The young man was too shaken up for any word, so the man simply watched the little boy push the wheelchair bound brother down the sidewalk. It was a long and slow ride back home to the man.  When he came out of the car, he looked at his dented car door. The damage was very noticeable, but he did not bother to repair it. He kept the dent to remind him of the message; “Do not go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention”.
Life whispers in our souls and speaks to our hearts. Sometimes when we do not listen to it, it throws a brick at us. It is our choice, listen to the whisper or wait for the brick.
In all the chaos and hurry, do not forget to slow down and observe your journey. Allow presence and awe in your life for that is what makes all the difference!!


The secret to success

Once a young man asked the wise man, Socrates,  the secret to success.  Socrates patiently listened to the man’s question and told him to meet him near the river the next morning for the answer. The next morning Socrates asked the young man to walk with him towards the river. As they went in the river  the water got up to their neck. But to the young man’s surprise Socrates ducked him into the water.
The young man struggled to get out of the water, but Socrates was strong and kept him there until the boy started turning blue. Then Socrates pulled the man’s head out of the water. The young man gasped and took a deep breath of air. Socrates asked, ‘What did you want the most when your head was in the water?” The young man replied, “Air.” Socrates said, “That is the secret to success. When you want success as badly as you wanted the air while you were in the water, then you will get it. There is no other secret.”
A burning desire is the starting point of all accomplishment. Just like a small fire cannot give much heat, a weak desire cannot produce great results.

Every person has a story

A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted…
“Dad, look the trees are going behind!”
Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behaviour with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed…
“Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”
The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…
“Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?” The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today.
Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people by the chapter that you walked in. When you truly get to know them, their journey might amaze you!


Merchant of death

About a hundred years ago, a man looked at the morning newspaper and to his surprise and horror, read his name in the obituary column. The newspapers had reported the death of the wrong person by mistake. His first response was shock. When he regained his composure, his second thought was to find out what people had said about him. The obituary read, “Dynamite King Dies.” And, also he was addressed as “the merchant of death.” This man was the inventor of dynamite and when he read the words “merchant of death,” he asked himself a question, “Is this how I am going to be remembered?” He got in touch with his feelings and decided that this was not the way he wanted to be remembered. From that day on, he started working towards peace. His name was Alfred Nobel and he is remembered today by the great Nobel Prize.
Just as Alfred Nobel got in touch with his feelings and redefined his values, we should step back and do the same.
What is your legacy?
How would you like to be remembered?
Will you be spoken well of?
Will you be remembered with love and respect?
Will you be missed?
You get to decide the legacy that you leave!!

Rise again

Never be too hard on yourself. Instead view your life with a positive and kind insight so that every time you fall, you find the strength and confidence to rise again. You grow through what you go through. The kites rise the highest against the wind – not with it!!

One life, just one...

So, when was the last time you did something for the first time? If you are scratching your head and struggling to come up with an answer for this question, then you are not doing justice to your life.
You don’t grow if you stay within the limits of what you already know. Never be afraid to try something new. Novelty and innovation can be brought in even in the simplest things in life.
Try doing your routine work in a different and more productive way. Bring in new ideas and add more value to your work. The way you are doing it right now is only one of the numerous ways of doing it.
Jump into things which you have always wanted to do. Be a fearless idiot when it comes to taking chances. Because if you never try you will never know. Your life begins at the end of your comfort zone.
Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Tip toe if you must, but take the step.                                  
One Life. Just one. Why aren’t we running like we are on fire towards our wildest dreams?! One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it’s worth watching !!

A compliment is a verbal sunshine

Have you ever had an instance where you were really impressed or carried away by someone but didn’t bother to compliment them and let them know about it?  May be they came up with an excellent idea during a discussion, may be they went the extra mile to complete an assigned task, may be a gesture of theirs was kind, or just may be they looked really great that day; but something held you back from going straight up to them and giving a compliment. If the positive things were noticed more than or, at the least ,as much as, the negative things and most importantly if people talked about the good things more than they did about the bad things, how different and beautiful would the world be !! Why do we hesitate and why is it that we think a hundred times before passing a compliment? And most often, somewhere in between the rethinking you give up and decide not to give the compliment because you really don’t consider it very relevant.
But think from the other person’s perspective. Think how inspired they would be to know that someone was really impressed or influenced by them. A compliment of yours can make someone else’s day.
So tell your teammate how much their support mattered during your hectic times. Tell your subordinate that you appreciate his quality of work. Tell your colleague that they look great in the new outfit. Be generous with compliments. Give genuine and honest compliments to people and magnify their strength.
The next time you raise your voice let it be to shout out a compliment ‘coz a compliment is a verbal sunshine.

The battle is between two wolves

A Cherokee was instructing his grandson about a battle that goes on in every human being.
He said to the young man, “the battle is between two wolves. One wolf is slothful, cowardly, vain, arrogant, and full of self-pity, sorrow, regret, envy and anger. The other wolf is diligent, courageous, humble, benevolent, and full of compassion, joy, empathy and faith”. Then there was a silence.
The grandson thought about the wolves for a moment and then asked his grandfather, “which wolf wins?”
The Cherokee elder replied, “the one you feed”.
Your mind  is your greatest power and it will always believe everything you tell it. It can enslave you or empower you depending on how you feed it.
Feed it hope. Feed it love. Feed it good thoughts. The more you feed your mind with positive thoughts, the more you can attract great things into your life !!

Why Worrying...

In a village, people used to visit a wise man complaining about the same problems over and over again. One day, he decided to tell them a joke and they all roared with laughter.
After a few minutes, he told them the same joke and only a few of them smiled.
Then he told the same joke for a third time, but no one laughed or smiled anymore.
The wise man smiled and said: “You can’t laugh at the same joke over and over. So why are you always crying about the same problem?”
Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its troubles. It empties today of its strength. The less you worry the less complicated your life becomes.

Be Yourself...

You were born an original. Don’t die a copy!! Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, magical person that you are…
Let the light that you are shine freely !! Being yourself is the most beautiful and courageous thing you can be…


Life as a sculptor

In the middle of a beautiful city there was a museum. The floor of the museum was made with marble tiles and right in the centre of the foyer was a huge marble statue as a part of the display. Many people from all parts of the world visited the museum every day and admired the beautifully crafted statue. One night one of the marble tiles on the floor started talking to the marble statue. “Hey statue, we are originally from the same town. We were picked up from the same mine, transported on the same lorry and brought to the very same sculptor. Why then do people from all over the world come all the way here just to step on me while they admire and praise you so much. This is so unfair.” The marble said “My dear friend, oh tile, do you remember how both of us sat there side by side in the sculptor’s workshop in our original forms as marble blocks. And do you remember how the sculptor chose to work on you first. He started using his tools on you simply to turn you into a masterpiece. But you resisted. You started falling apart.”
“ Of course I remember” said the marble tile, “I hate that guy. How could he use those sharp tools on me.” The statue replied “That’s right. When you couldn’t take the pain of his tools he decided to give up on you and started working on me instead. I knew at once, that if I had to be something different I would have to bear the pain. Thinking so, instead of resisting I bore all the pain. My friend, there is a price to everything in life. Since you decided to give up halfway, you can’t blame anybody who steps on you now.”
Life as a sculptor, wants to make a masterpiece out of you. The question is whether you are ready to handle every test, every hard knock, every trouble, every failure; all the pain that comes from these sculpting tools, and become a masterpiece. Or do you grumble and crumble down to simply become a tile. That is what decides whether people step on you or admire you.


Life is a roller coaster

“Life is a roller coaster”….very true words…yet we are all conditioned to overrate the good days and feel desperate during the bad days. No one is ever really comfortable in dealing with their not-so-good times. We have this perpetual “right and wrong” notions fed into our minds and that influence us in every walk of life. But then, It’s Okay to be not okay sometimes….don’t be too hard on yourself…
It’s Okay !!
It’s okay to not have it all figured out yet..
They say you should set your career and life goals straight and clear at a young age and that would help you lead a prosperous life…but if you have not yet found out your true passion and purpose it’s okay. Be patient. Your journey deserves its own pace. It’s never too late.
It’s okay to make mistakes…
Mistakes are part and parcel of life and it’s through your mistakes and failures that you grow. Never ever take a mistake to your heart and blame yourself for it over and over again. Instead cherish what it had taught you and use it to build a better version of yourself.
It’s okay to cry…
If there ever comes a point in your life where you feel totally shattered and wants to cry your heart out, do it. It doesn’t make you weak. Sometimes life is hard and some days are rough. If you can’t cry with all your heart then you can never laugh with all your heart.
It’s okay to be scared…
If it scares you then it’s definitely a good thing to try. You will always learn something when you come out of the shell and face your fears. Sometimes what you are most afraid of doing is the very thing that sets you free.
It’s okay to be jealous…
It is absolutely okay to feel jealousy but it is important how you handle it. Jealousy helps to keep you on your toes and helps you realize that you are not the be-all and end-all of everything.
It’s okay if everyone doesn’t like you…
Never waste your time and energy trying to please everyone. Own who you are and be proud of it. Be opinionated and stand up for the things that you believe in. The right people will like you for the right reason.
Sometimes it’s okay if the only thing that you did today was breathe…You are alive and that is the hardest thing to be!!

Take Life One Step at a Time…

Do you claim health is important to you–then not exercise for 6 weeks? Do you believe being productive is important, but work only on the night before a deadline? Do you believe relationships are important, but let your social life stagnate? How do you close that gap between what you value and how you behave?
Everyone makes mistakes and often fail to live up to the things they consider important. Imperfections are part of life. It is sad that some people feel that because being perfectly consistent with your values is impossible, that there is no point trying to debug the inconsistencies. Some self-improvement cynicism is the result of demanding the impossible, expecting perfection instead of progress.
Unlike a computer program, your software can never have zero-defects. Instead, try to think of self-improvement as trying to reach 98% bug-free. You will inevitably fail to meet your values some of the time, but those errors won’t matter too much in the long run.
Write out your goals because a goal doesn’t matter unless it is on paper. If you don’t write out your goals, it is only your emotional compass that would decide whether something would get done that day.
Break down your fears.  If something terrifies you, chop it into pieces you can swallow. Take one step at a time.
Don’t try to overhaul your life overnight. Instead, focus on making one small change at a time. Over time, these small changes will add up to big transformations.
You may not be there yet, but you are closer than you were yesterday……


Happiness is found in the simplest of things…
Happiness is found in gratitude, in a good conversation, in an achieved goal, in a fond memory…
In all the simple magnificence of life…
Remember this…You will be exactly as happy as you decide to be.
To be happy is a choice you make every day, every hour. And refining and renewing that state is a constant pursuit.
Stay Happy & Positive…

Dream We Must…..

Martin Luther King, Jr., four decades ago, said, “I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed…that all men are created equal. And if America is to be a great nation, this must become true.” And in 2008, USA elected their first Afro-American president. This dream was implanted into the social consciousness when the blacks didn’t even have the voting rights.
Dhirubhai Ambani dreamt of a digital India, where the common man would have access to affordable means of information and communication, which will help him overcome the handicaps of illiteracy and lack of mobility. Today it is a reality in India. This dream was implanted into the minds of Reliance’s intelligentsia when basic communication channels were still pathetic in India.
Mahatma Gandhi dreamt of a free India at a time when this country was already enslaved and ruled by foreigners for well over three centuries. And today we are living his dream. At a time when India couldn’t even build world class air carriers, APJ Abdul Kalam dreamt about developing missiles to strengthen the country. Today we are living his dream.
Dream we must , that all of us know. What is significant here is that all these great dreamers processed great dreams not necessarily during the best of times but during the toughest of times, when the collective social consciousness wasn’t upbeat.
So, dream we must – both as individuals and as humanity. On the sheer strength of our dreams let us get the world to stand up.

Your success roar !!!

What defines us is how well we rise after falling….The days that break you are the days that make you….
Let your hustle whisper and your success roar !!!

Value every single person 

The things you take for granted someone else is praying for…..
Savour every little thing and value every single person in your life. You never know what tomorrow might bring!!

Attitude makes a big difference!!

It is not always about what happens to you. Sometimes it’s about how you choose to handle the storms—to keep moving forward with your life when uncertainty is raging around you.
Above all, be the hero of your life; not the victim…Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference!!

Be Kind Always…

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table.
“How much is an ice cream sundae?” he asked the waitress.
“50 cents,” replied the waitress.
The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the number of coins in it.
“How much is a dish of plain ice cream?” he inquired. Some people were now waiting for a table and the waitress was a bit impatient.
“35 cents,” she said in an irritated tone.
The little boy again counted the coins. “I’ll have the plain ice cream,” he said.
The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and departed.
When the waitress came back, she began wiping down the table and then swallowed hard at what she saw.
There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were 15 cents – her tip.
Kindness is a gift everyone can afford to give. So be the reason someone feels seen, heard and supported. Be the reason someone smiles today. If we all do one random act of kindness daily, we might set the world in the right direction…

Learn to unlearn…

Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era (1868-1912), once had a visitor who was a university professor who came to inquire about Zen (school of Mahayana Buddhism). Nan-in invited him inside and had a small talk with him. After that he served tea to the professor. He poured his visitor’s cup full, and then kept on pouring. The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. “It is overflowing. No more will go in!” “Like this cup,” Nan-in said, “you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?”
When any real progress is made, we unlearn and learn anew what we thought we knew before. Transformation is all about learning, unlearing and relearning. A conditioned mind cannot comprehend the infinite.


The Road not Taken...

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveller, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less travelled by,
And that has made all the difference…..
This is a beautiful poem by Robert Frost which reflects on the power of our decisions. We are not living in a world where all roads are radii of a circle and where all, if followed long enough, will therefore draw gradually nearer and finally meet at the centre: rather in a world where every road, after a few miles, forks into two, and each of those into two again, and at each fork, you must make a decision. Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen. The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. You can do anything you decide to do.
You write your life story by the choices you make. It is your choices that truly defines who you are much more than your abilities!!


Gratitude is the Key….

A rich man was passing through a desert towards his destination. It was a new experience for him as he was without all the luxuries and comforts that he had been used to. The hot sunrays were piercing through his skin and the sand was reflecting back immense heat. The hot air ran past and slapped his body, head to toe. It was getting difficult for him to carry on as he was beginning to get dehydrated and his water reserves were depleted.
As he struggled and moved ahead, his eyes fell on a small tent at a distance. Gathering all his energy he somehow managed to reach the tent. He saw an old woman inside and dropped at her feet begging for some water. The old woman immediately filled a dusty, cracked, mud bowl with water and offered it to the man. He readily drank enough of it, thanked the old woman endlessly and when he felt a little better, he carried on with his journey.
The most important thing for the man at that point of time was water, because only water could help him survive and move ahead. It would have been unwise of him if at that point, owing to his status, he cribbed about the condition of the mud bowl. Interestingly he thanked the old woman for her help, without bothering to complain about the bowl.
Every event that happens in our life, whether favourable or unfavourable, is only a vessel carrying a lesson for us. And that lesson is necessary for us at that point of time. The condition of the vessel is not important then. Wisdom is in taking the learning along and leaving behind the vessel with all gratitude for it having served us. At times the experience may be something that we enjoy; at times it may cause pain and shake us up, but ultimately it has come to teach us a lesson and help us to evolve to the next level.
Holding on to gratitude help us understand the reason behind every experience and also learn from it. Every time you are upset, negative or miserable, you should understand that you are not aligned to gratitude. For, gratitude and disturbance cannot co-exist.


The Chinese Bamboo Tree..

Not many of us would be familiar with the story of Chinese bamboo tree. Like any plant, growth of the Chinese Bamboo Tree requires nurturing – water, fertile soil, sunshine. In its first year, we see no visible signs of activity. In the second year, again, no growth above the soil. The third, the fourth, still nothing. Our patience is tested and we begin to wonder if our efforts (caring, water, etc.) will ever be rewarded.
And finally in the fifth year – behold, a miracle! We experience growth. And what growth it is! The Chinese Bamboo Tree grows 80 feet in just six weeks!
But let’s be serious, does the Chinese Bamboo Tree really grow 80 feet in six weeks? Did the Chinese Bamboo Tree lie dormant for four years only to grow exponentially in the fifth? Or, was the little tree growing underground, developing a root system strong enough to support its potential for outward growth in the fifth year and beyond? The answer is, of course, obvious. Had the tree not developed a strong unseen foundation it could not have sustained its life as it grew. The same principle is true for people. People, who patiently toil towards worthwhile dreams and goals, building strong character while overcoming adversity and challenge, grow the strong internal foundation to handle success.               
We have so many legendary examples for this. Henry Ford had to water his Chinese Bamboo Tree through five business failures before he finally succeeded with the Ford Motor Company. Another great bamboo grower was the legendary jockey Eddie Arcaro. Arcaro lost his first 250 races as a jockey before going on to win 17 Triple Crown races and 554 stakes races for total purse earnings of more than $30 million.
To stay focused and continue to believe in what we are doing even when we don’t see immediate result is the biggest challenge in today’s culture which is driven by instant gratification.
We live in a quick-fix society. We get frustrated if we have to wait more than 2 minutes for service or a stop light to change. We want instant solutions to every complex problem and every fractured relationship. In short – we want it all now! Maybe it’s time to reflect on an old, old poem by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow that is as true today as it was when he wrote it over 100 years ago:
“The heights by great men reached and kept. Were not attained by sudden flight, But they, while their companions slept, Toiled ever upward through the night.”
Well, you have a Chinese Bamboo Tree inside of you just waiting to break through. So keep watering and believing and you too will be flying high before you know it….


Seasons of Life…

There was a man who had four sons. He wanted them to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away. The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall. When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen. The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted. The second son said no – it was covered with green buds and full of promise. The third son disagreed, he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen. The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfilment.                                                                   
The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but one season in the tree’s life. He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are – and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life – can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.
Don’t judge life by one difficult season. Don’t let the pain of one season destroy joy of the rest.
If you give up when it’s winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, beauty of your summer  &  fulfilment of your fall…

Life is too short to stress on small things...

Once a psychology professor was teaching stress management principles to a group of students.  As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the typical “glass half empty or glass half full” question.  Instead, with a smile on her face, the professor asked, “How heavy is this glass of water I’m holding?” Students shouted out answers ranging from eight ounces to a couple pounds.
She replied, “From my perspective, the absolute weight of this glass doesn’t matter.  It all depends on how long I hold it.  If I hold it for a minute or two, it’s fairly light.  If I hold it for an hour straight, its weight might make my arm ache a little.  If I hold it for a day straight, my arm will likely cramp up and feel completely numb and paralyzed, forcing me to drop the glass to the floor.  In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it feels to me.”
As the class nodded their heads in agreement, she continued, “Your stresses and worries in life are very much like this glass of water.  Think about them for a while and nothing happens.  Think about them a bit longer and you begin to ache a little.  Think about them all day long, and you will feel completely numb and paralyzed – incapable of doing anything else until you drop them.”
It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses and worries.  No matter what happens during the day, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down.  Don’t carry them through the night and into the next day with you.  If you still feel the weight of yesterday’s stress, it’s a strong sign that it’s time to put the glass down.


Believe, you can achieve!

As a man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at any time, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.
He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”
The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.
Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before? How many of us have avoided trying something new because of a limiting belief?
Whatever you can conceive and believe, you can achieve! Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think…


Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength!

A 10-year-old boy decided to study judo despite the fact that he had lost his left arm in a devastating car accident. The boy began lessons with an old Japanese judo master. The boy was doing well, so he couldn't understand why, after three months of training the master had taught him only one move.
"Sensei," the boy finally said, "Shouldn't I be learning more moves?"
"This is the only move you know, but this is the only move you'll ever need to know," the sensei replied.
Not quite understanding, but believing in his teacher, the boy kept training. Several months later, the sensei took the boy to his first tournament. Surprising himself, the boy easily won his first two matches. The third match proved to be more difficult, but after some time, his opponent became impatient and charged; the boy deftly used his only move to win the match.
Still amazed by his success, the boy was now in the finals. This time, his opponent was bigger and stronger. Concerned that the boy might get hurt, the referee called a time-out. He was about to stop the match when the sensei intervened. "No," the sensei insisted, "Let him continue."                                             
Soon after the match resumed, his opponent made a critical mistake: he dropped his guard. Instantly, the boy used his move to pin him. The boy had won the match and the tournament.
"Sensei, how did I win the tournament with only one move?"
"You won for two reasons," the sensei answered. "First, you've almost mastered one of the most difficult throws in all of judo. And second, the only known defence for that move is for your opponent to grab your left arm."
The boy's biggest weakness had become his biggest strength. Sometimes we feel that we have certain weaknesses and we blame the circumstances and ourselves for it but we never know that our weakness can become our strength one day.
Sometimes you don’t realize your own strength until you come face to face with your weakness. To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable and out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength.


We are what we believe we are

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $ 500 Note. In the room of 200, he asked, "who would like this $ 500?' Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this note to one of you, but first let me do this.' He proceeded to crumple the note up. He then asked, 'who still wants it?' Still, the hands were up in the air. 'Well,' he replied. 'What if I do this’? And the dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up now, all crumpled and dirty. 'Now who still wants it?' Still the hands went into the air. "My friends, you all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $ 500.”
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never loose your value.
"Never let yesterday's disappointments overshadow tomorrow's dreams. We are what we believe we are".


Even the hardest problem has a solution

 A father left 17 ducks as an asset for his three Sons. When the father passed away, his sons opened up the will. It stated that the eldest son should get half of 17 ducks, the middle son should be given 1/3rd of 17 ducks and the youngest son should be given 1/9th of the 17 ducks.
As it is not possible to divide 17 into half or 17 by 3 or 17 by 9, the sons started to fight with each other.
Unable to come to a satisfactory conclusion, they decided to go to a wise man who used to live in a cave. The wise man listened patiently about the will. He decided to help them put an end to the squabble and he came up with a solution. He added one of his own ducks to the 17. That increased the total to 18 ducks.
Now, he started reading the deceased father’s will.
Half of 18 = 9.
So he gave 9 ducks to the eldest son.
1/3rd of 18 = 6.
So he gave 6 ducks to the middle son.
1/9th of 18 = 2.
So he gave 2 ducks to the youngest son.
Now add this up :
9 + 6 + 2 = 17 &
This leaves 1 duck which the wise man took back!
The attitude of negotiation & problem solving is to find the 18th duck i.e. the common ground. Once a person is able to find the common ground, the issue is resolved. It is difficult at times. But definitely achievable.


Importance of believing in your journey

Today we would like to share with you a very powerful real life story shared by Mr. Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios during his commencement address at Stanford University. It shows the importance of believing in your journey. Here is a glimpse of his speech:
“I never graduated from college. I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?
It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.
And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.                                       
It wasn’t all easy. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:
Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.
None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But 10 years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do.
Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backward 10 years later.
Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”


Hard Work Always Pays Off…

A man found a cocoon of an emperor moth. He took it home so that he could watch the moth come out of the cocoon. On that day a small opening appeared, he sat and watched the moth for several hours as the moth struggled to force the body through that little hole.
Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther. It just seemed to be stuck.
Then the man, in his kindness, decided to help the moth, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The moth then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shrivelled wings.
The man continued to watch the moth because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.
Neither happened! In fact, the little moth spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shrivelled body and shrivelled wings. It never was able to fly.                                      
What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the moth to get through the tiny opening was the way of forcing fluid from the body of the moth into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon. Freedom and flight would only come after the struggle.
By depriving the moth of a struggle, he deprived the moth of health. Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If we were to go through our life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been.
Nothing worth having comes easy. It is the difficult roads that often leads to beautiful destinations. Opportunities are missed by most people because it comes disguised as hard work. Things may come to people who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle. Hard work always pays off…


Be Curious; Not judgmental.

Once there was an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically. “Maybe,” the farmer replied.
The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed.
“Maybe,” replied the old man.
The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune.
“Maybe,” answered the farmer.
The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out.
“Maybe,” said the farmer.
 In this beautiful Zen story, the farmer is practicing non-judgment. He understands the true nature of life, that you can't judge any event as an "end" in a way. Our life doesn't play out like a work of fiction. There aren't definite breaks that separate one moment versus another, and there isn't a perfectly formulated end which everything builds to. There's always tomorrow!
 And whether the day was good or bad, there are a million effects which can arise from one event. Good and bad are in fact, two sides of the same coin. If things seem perfect, they aren't. If it seems like it's Armageddon in your corner of the world, it's not.
 We need to observe our life through the lens of this infinitely co-arising universe. This act in itself can bring you a great sense of peace.
Be Curious; Not judgmental. The ability to observe without judging is the highest form of intelligence…


Stay Positive!

Once two salesmen were sent to Africa by a British shoe manufacturer. The goal of their trip was to investigate this new market, and to report their findings back to headquarters on the potential of the market.
The first salesman came back with a rather dismal report, “There’s no potential at all here, because nobody wears shoes.”
The second salesman came back with a rather different reply, “There’s massive potential in Africa, because nobody wears shoes.”
This very simple story helps us understand that in a single situation, there are often many ways to look at the outcome. It’s your choice as to how you interpret any situation, that makes all the difference.
What you think you become ; What you feel you attract; What you imagine you create!


Teamwork is the Key

A group of employees in a company was called by the Management one day. It was a team of 30 young, energetic and dynamic employees with keen enthusiasm and desire to learn and grow. The management wanted their employees to understand about finding real solutions to the problems and as a part of the plan the team was called to play a game.
The group was quite surprised as they were called for playing game. All reached the venue holding various thoughts. As they entered the hall, they were surprised to see that it was beautifully decorated. Also, there was a huge box of balloons placed at the centre of the hall. The team leader asked everyone to pick a balloon from the box and asked them to blow it. Everyone happily picked a balloon and blew it.
Then the team leader asked them to write their names on their balloon, carefully so that the balloons didn’t blow up. All tried to write their names on the balloons, but not everyone was successful. A few balloons blew up due to pressure and they were given another chance to use another balloon. Those who failed to mark their names even after the second chance were ruled out of the game. After the second chance, 25 employees were qualified for the next level. All the balloons were collected and then put into another room.
The team leader asked the employees to go to the room and pick the same balloon that had his/her name on it. Also, he told them that no balloon should blow up and warned them to be very careful! All 25 employees reached the room, where the balloons carrying their names were thrown here and there. They were searching for the respective balloons carrying their names. While they were in a rush to find the respective balloons, they tried not to burst the balloons. It was almost 15 minutes, and no one was able to find the balloon carrying his own name. The team was told that the second level of the game was over.
Now it is the third and final level. They asked the employees to pick any balloon in the room and give it to the person named on the balloon. Within a couple of minutes all balloons reached the hands of the respective employee and everyone reached the hall.
The team leader then told the employees: “this is called real solutions to the problems. Many times, sharing and helping others give you real solutions to all problems. Help out each other to ease things”
Talent wins games, but teamwork and intelligence wins championships!! None of us is as smart as all of us. We rise by lifting others…


Learning what to say changes everything!

One day there was a blind man sitting on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet and a sign that read:
“I am blind, please help.”
A creative publicist was walking by and stopped to observe. He saw that the blind man had only a few coins in his hat. He dropped in more coins and, without asking for permission, took the sign and rewrote it.
He returned the sign to the blind man and left.
That afternoon the publicist returned to the blind man and noticed that his hat was full of bills and coins.           
The blind man recognized his footsteps and asked if it was he who had rewritten his sign and wanted to know what he had written on it.
The publicist responded:
“Nothing that was not true. I just wrote the message a little differently.”
He smiled and went on his way. The new sign read:
“Today is Spring and I cannot see it.”
Learning what to say changes everything. The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and a lightning bug.

No effort is too small to make an impact!

An old man walked across the beach until he came across a young boy throwing something into the breaking waves. Upon closer inspection, the old man could see that the boy was tossing stranded starfish from the sandy beach, back into the ocean.
“What are you doing, young man?” He asked.
“If the starfish are still on the beach when the sun rises, they will die,” the boy answered.
“That is ridiculous. There are thousands of miles of beach and millions of starfish. It doesn’t matter how many you throw in; you can’t make a difference.”
“It matters to this one,” the boy said as he threw another starfish into the waves. “And it matters to this one.”
No effort is too small to make an impact! Little things make big things happen. Success is the sum of all small efforts, repeated day in and day out!


Think outside the box

In a small Italian town, hundreds of years ago, a small business owner owed a large sum of money to a loan-shark. The loan-shark was a very old, unattractive looking guy that just so happened to fancy the business owner’s daughter. He decided to offer the businessman a deal that would completely wipe out the debt he owed him. The loan-shark said that he would place two pebbles into a bag, one white and one black. The daughter would then have to reach into the bag and pick out a pebble. If it was black, the debt would be wiped, but the loan-shark would then marry her. If it was white, the debt would also be wiped, but the daughter wouldn’t have to marry the loan-shark.
Whilst the loan-shark was picking the two pebbles from the pebble strewn path in the businessman’s garden, the daughter noticed that he’d picked up two black pebbles and placed them both into the bag. He then asked the daughter to reach into the bag and pick one. The daughter naturally had three choices as to what she could have done:
Refuse to pick a pebble from the bag; Take both pebbles out of the bag and expose the loan-shark for cheating; Pick a pebble from the bag fully well knowing it was black and sacrifice herself for her father’s freedom.
She drew out a pebble from the bag, and before looking at it ‘accidentally’ dropped it into the midst of the other pebbles. She said to the loan-shark; “Oh, how clumsy of me. Never mind, if you look into the bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked”.
The pebble left in the bag is obviously black, and seeing as the loan-shark didn’t want to be exposed, he had to play along as if the pebble the daughter dropped was white, and clear her father’s debt.
It’s always possible to overcome a tough situation through out of the box thinking, and not give in to the only options you think you have to pick from.


Every obstacle gives us an opportunity 

In ancient times, a king had his men place a boulder on a roadway. He then hid in the bushes, and watched to see if anyone would move the boulder out of the way. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers passed by and simply walked around it.
Many people blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none of them did anything about getting the stone removed.
One day, a peasant came along carrying vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to push the stone out of the way. After much pushing and straining, he finally managed.
After the peasant went back to pick up his vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and note from the King explain that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the road.
Every obstacle that we come across gives us an opportunity to improve our circumstances, and while the lazy complain, others are creating opportunities through their kind hearts, generosity, and willingness to get things done.


Simply do it!!!

A Zen Master dropped his handkerchief on the floor, and a disciple was there and the Master said, “Try to pick it up and give it back to me. Try!” And the disciple immediately took the handkerchief from the ground and gave it to the Master, but the Master dropped it again and he said, ”I am saying try to get it!” Six times the Master goes on dropping, and the disciple is puzzled as to what he means.
Then suddenly the idea struck him: ”The Master is saying try to get it.” He said, ”But how can I try? Either I pick it up or I don’t. How can I try?” And the Master said, ”That’s what you have been doing for three years – trying to meditate. Either you meditate or you don’t! How can you try?”
Trying is a device. Trying is a trick. When we don’t want to do a thing, we try. When we want to do a thing, we simply DO it!


Enjoy Your Coffee !

A Group of friends, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old University Professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling them to help themselves to the coffee.
When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: “If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups…..And then began envying each other’s cups.
Now consider this: “Life is the COFFEE; the jobs, money and position in the society are the CUPS. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee
NOTE: The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.


If a lion is vegetarian, is he still a lion?

If a lion is vegetarian, is he still a lion?
If he doesn’t use the long claws, razor sharp teeth, athletic ability and hunting skills that he’s been equipped with to catch and eat prey, is he really being all that he can be?
If he starts consuming grass instead of zebras, is he just another member of the herd?
What about you?
You’ve been equipped with certain unique talents and capabilities. These skills, when used effectively, enable you to live your life with a purpose and make a difference in the world. These attributes are a part of what defines who you are.
So, if you’re not using your skills and operating in your areas of strength are you being true to yourself?
Can you live your purpose if you’re trying to be something that you’re not?
Have you ever seen a well-fed vegetarian lion or have you ever seen a successful person, who is not using their unique talents to their full potential.
So sharpen your claws and get hunting !


We can always make a difference in others life!

This is about Mr. Zavere Poonawala who is a well-known Parsee industrialist in Pune, India. He had this driver named Ganga Datt with him for the last 30 years on his limousine, which was originally owned by Acharya Rajneesh.  Ganga Datt passed away  and at that time Mr. Poonawala was in Mumbai for some important work. As soon as he heard the news, he canceled all his meetings, requested the driver’s family to await him for the cremation and came back to Pune immediately by a helicopter.
On reaching Pune, he asked the limo to be decorated with flowers as he wished Ganga Datt should be taken in the same car which he himself had driven since the beginning. When Ganga Datt’s family agreed to his wishes, he himself drove Ganga Datt from his home up to the ghat on his last journey.
When asked about it, Mr. Poonawala replied that Ganga Datt had served him day and night, and he could at least do this being eternally grateful to him. He further added that Ganga Datt rose up from poverty and educated both his children very well. His daughter is a Chartered accountant and that is so commendable.
His comment in the end, is the essence of a successful life in all aspects: “Everybody earns money which is nothing unusual in that, but we should always be grateful to those people who contribute to our success. This is the belief, we have been brought up with, which made me do, what I did”.
An inspiring example of humanity ……:)


Only a Blank Canvas is perfect!

An artist can look at it forever, brush in hand, knowing that from the moment the paint touches the canvas, the perfection is ruined forever.
The artist muses to herself:
“What if I make a mistake?”
“What if I start in the wrong place?”
“What if no-one likes my art?”
More resourceful statements would be:
“Canvases are for painting on.”
“If I make a mistake, I can learn from it and get better next time.”
“Starting in the wrong place is better than not starting at all.”
“I’m not painting for the masses, I’m painting because I’m an artist.”
You’re that artist.
Your future is the canvas.
Your unique combination of skills, experience and passion is your brush and pallet.
You can stand there looking at the future, too scared to make a mistake and waste the canvas in front of you.
Or you can take a deep breath, pick up your brush and start creating something wonderful.
Ideas always seem perfect in our heads. What could possibly go wrong when your dreams remain dreams?
But that’s not what they’re meant for.
You are meant to try.
To aspire.
To be average, then good, then terrific, then masterful.
With a lot of false strokes along the way.
Success in life isn’t about not doing the wrong thing, it’s about doing the right thing.
You will make mistakes, you will have to say sorry, you will have constant opportunities to keep learning.
So stop looking at the perfect blank canvas, and start making art.
Your beautifully messy, wonderfully flawed art.


From Candles to Soap

In 1879, Procter and Gamble's best seller was candles. But the company was in trouble. Thomas Edison had invented the light bulb, and it looked as if candles would become obsolete. Their fears became reality when the market for candles plummeted since they were now sold only for special occasions.
The outlook appeared to be bleak for Procter and Gamble. However, at this time, it seemed that destiny played a dramatic part in pulling the struggling company from the clutches of bankruptcy. A forgetful employee at a small factory in Cincinnati forgot to turn off his machine when he went to lunch. The result? A frothing mass of lather filled with air bubbles. He almost threw the stuff away but instead decided to make it into soap. The soap floated. Thus, Ivory soap was born and became the mainstay of the Procter and Gamble Company.
Why was soap that floats such a hot item at that time? In Cincinnati, during that period, some people bathed in the Ohio River. Floating soap would never sink and consequently never got lost. So, Ivory soap became a best seller in Ohio and eventually across the country also.
Like Procter and Gamble, never give up when things go wrong or when seemingly insinuations problems arise. Creativity put to work can change a problem and turn it into a gold mine.

Growth involves risk

An oceanographer was asked how a lobster is able to grow bigger when its shell is so hard. The only way, he explained, is for the lobster to shed its shell at regular intervals. When its body begins to feel cramped inside its shell, the lobster instinctively looks for a reasonably safe spot to rest while the hard shell comes off and the pink membrane just inside forms the basis of the new shell.
Yet no matter what safe haven it chooses for this shedding process, the lobster is vulnerable--it might be tossed against a coral reef, for example, or eaten by a predator. In other words, the lobster must risk its life to grow.
Long after the oceanographer and I parted ways, I considered the plight of the lobster. His story of survival provides an interesting perspective on the integral role risk plays in our professional and personal development. The passage of time brings with it countless unknowns. It challenges us to make choices about everything from the food we eat every day to where we chose to live and work, or with whom we spend our lives.
There is a certain amount of risk inherent in any choice. Yet the lobster shows us that enduring the unknowns in life--taking risks--is absolutely necessary for growth and development. While our own decisions may not always be a matter of actual life and death (as the lobsters are), they are just as critical to our ability to grow as managers or mentors, as spouses, parents or friends.
We all know when our shells have become too tight. We may feel stifled, frustrated or unmotivated. Perhaps we begin operating at a level well below our potential, doing the same old things and feeling bored with our jobs or our lives. A too-tight shell means we can't function efficiently or effectively. It inhibits our forward progress.
Some of us continue to smother in old shells that are no longer useful or productive. That way we can at least feel safe. Ask yourself what is more important--security or satisfaction? Being overly cautious in managing and relating to others may indeed keep you comfortable, yet it also means you are slowly suffocating in your own shell.
Others take a different approach, pushing themselves--both professionally and personally--out of their comfort zones and embracing new experiences. Perhaps you've considered seeking a leadership role in a local service organization or an association committee, or maybe you've played with the idea of taking a foreign language class or ballroom dance lessons. In these situations, and many others, there may be varying degrees of vulnerability, but those who challenge themselves--and push beyond their often self-imposed limitations--recognize that growth simply does not come without some level of risk.
Because few things in life come with a guarantee, exercising caution can certainly be of benefit in some situations. The key to effectively managing risk is to find the balance between caution and reckless abandon. That middle ground provides endless opportunities for personal and organizational change.  Try to avoid becoming paralyzed by the potential "worst case scenarios" that accompany any decision. Despite the dangers, shed your shell and prepare for a slew of new and better adventures.

How High Can You Jump?

Flea trainers have observed a predictable and strange habit of fleas while training them. Fleas are trained by putting them in a cardboard box with a top on it. The fleas will jump up and hit the top of the cardboard box over and over and over again. As you watch them jump and hit the lid, something very interesting becomes obvious. The fleas continue to jump, but they are no longer jumping high enough to hit the top. Apparently, Excedrin headache 1738 forces them to limit the height of their jump.
When you take off the lid, the fleas continue to jump, but they will not jump out of the box. They won’t jump out because they can’t jump out. Why? The reason is simple. They have conditioned themselves to jump just so high. Once they have conditioned themselves to jump just so high, that’s all they can do!
Many times, people do the same thing. They restrict themselves and never reach their potential. Just like the fleas, they fail to jump higher, thinking they are doing all they can do.

Everybody is a genius...

If you compare a walnut with some of the beautiful and exciting things that grow on our planet, it does not seem to be a marvelous creation. It is common, rough, not particularly attractive, and certainly not of much value. Besides, it is small. Its growth is limited by the hard shell that surrounds it?the shell from which it never escapes during its lifetime. Of course, that is the wrong way to judge a walnut. Break one open and look inside. See how the walnut has grown to fill every corner available to it. It had no say in the size or shape of that shell. However, given those limitations, it achieved its full growth. How lucky we will be if, like the walnut, we blossom and bloom in every aspect of the life that is given us. Take heart! If one nut can do it, so can you!
  • Reach your full potential
  • Be strong like a nutshell
  • Walnuts: The New Cure-all
  • Soar above the Walnut Trees
  • Rebuild your outer shell

Influence Your World

There once was a harmless, nondescript street in the suburbs where no-one took much care of their gardens. The lawns were overgrown, the weeds were taking over and the hedges desperately needed to be cut back. It looked unsightly, but when the neighbours looked at each other and their gardens, they just shrugged their shoulders and laughed.
It was all too hard, no-one could be bothered making it better and because everyone’s garden was the same, no-one felt compelled to change anything.
Then the gardener moved in.  Bill was a tidy, hard-working little man who started working out the front as soon as he moved into the street.  He got the lawn-mower out and gave the grass a good cut. Then he put his gloves on and pulled out all of the weeds.  Finally, he brandished a large, shiny hedge-trimmer and started shaping his hedges.
Satisfied with his hours of hard work, the gardener went inside for a well-earned lemonade. Intrigued, the neighbours walked by and casually inspected the newly manicured garden. At first, nothing changed, but over time, something interesting happened.
One by one, the neighbours started to take more pride in their own gardens and the sounds of lawnmowers could once again be heard on a Saturday morning. After a few months, the street was transformed from a messy, unappealing collection of houses, to a beautifully cared for avenue that wouldn’t be out of place in a stylish magazine.
The difference?
One person cared and showed everyone else what could be achieved with a little bit of hard work. It’s easy for us to look at the world and think that because no-one else cares, you don’t have to either.
But you have a unique opportunity to take meaningful action that not only benefits you, but inspires others to follow.


Dealing With Pain - How?

Tom usually go to visit his mentor for his weekly catch up. It was obvious that the younger man was troubled by something, so his mentor asked him what was wrong.
Tom explained that he had experienced a tough week.  He’d had an argument with his dad, he felt hurt by something one of his friends had said and he had missed out on a promotion at work. “So what should I do now?” he asked.
His Mentor looked at Tom and said, “Did you know that meerkats eat scorpions?”
Yes, “It’s amazing.  These cute little guys attack and eat poisonous scorpions.  It seems that they have been stung so often that they have become resistant to their poison and it doesn’t hurt them one bit.”
“What?” Tom responded incredulously.
“And then there are these beautiful little frogs in South America who are extremely toxic.  They aren’t born that way, but they get their toxins from the food that they eat and it builds up in their system until they become dangerous to eat.  Their bright colours warn potential predators to keep their distance.”
Tom shook his head, “I don’t understand, I come to you with a problem and you give me a biology lesson.”
He smiled and said:-
“When you experience the poison of pain, you have two choices.  You can be like the meerkat and use the experience to become more resilient.  Or you can become like the frog, allowing the poison to rise up in your system until you’re toxic and everyone wants to keep their distance.”
Everyone experiences pain, how you respond is up to you.
You can be a meerkat, or you can be a frog.
Which one are you?


You too can make it happen! 

There are days when it’s easy to lose sight of the big picture. Days when you wonder “What on earth am I doing here? Why are my life and circumstances so difficult? When will the struggle and hard work end?”
The Italian sculptor Agostino d'Antonio worked diligently on a large piece of marble. Unable to produce his desired masterpiece, he lamented, "I can do nothing with it." Other sculptors also worked this difficult piece of marble, but to no avail. Michelangelo discovered the stone and visualized the possibilities in it.
When he saw the unfinished statue, he studied it for a while, mapped out a plan and began to work.  Michelangelo had the big picture in mind. The big picture inspired him to endure, maintain his stamina, and keep strong so he would eventually see his vision come into reality.
Four years later the world laid eyes on one of the greatest pieces of work ever sculpted — Michelangelo’s “David.”  It stood a towering 14 feet 3 inches and was placed outside the Palazzo Vecchio.  The master Michelangelo knew how to keep the big picture in view.  His I-can-make-it-happen attitude resulted in one of the world's masterpieces -- his statue of David.
Enduring adversity and a long difficult struggle whether it be physical, emotional, spiritual or mental, is not easy. What makes it possible to endure a difficult struggle is a vision of the big picture. A vision of what is being produced through the struggle or as a result of the struggle.
When you see the big picture you see:
  • Your situation from the 30,000-foot level
  • The good you are accomplishing with your life
  • The reward you will receive in the next life
  • The example or testimony you are giving to your family and friends
  • The growth in character you are experiencing because of the struggle
  • Every ounce of effort counting because with effort you inspire others
  • What statue you are carving with your life?
  • When discouraged and ready to quit, what keeps you going?
  • What is the big picture you see as a result of your life?
If seeing is believing, visualizing is achieving.  You too can make it happen! 

Your fears are like peanut allergies...

If you are allergic to peanuts, the logical response is to stay away from the offending beasts.
In such a situation, exposure is extremely dangerous and I know a few people who have an epi-pen on hand in case they have an allergic reaction.
However, recent research suggests that a small level of exposure to peanuts over a long period of time make the body more resistant to the effects.
Think about that for a moment.
Something is dangerous.
Logic says, “stay away!”
But with exposure, resistance builds, taking away the power of the peanut.
Your fears are like peanut allergies.
It seems logical and reasonable to stay away from the things that you are afraid of.
“I can’t start a business, what if it fails?”
“I can’t run a marathon; I might not be able to finish.”
What if, instead of running away from your fears, you exposed yourself to small doses of failure, rejection and pain?
What if you realized that it didn’t kill you?
What if you built your resistance to those things that are holding you back?
What if you went on to change the world?
Don’t be afraid to change. You may lose something good, but you may gain something even better.


What You Feel, What You Think, What You Say, What You Do!

In 1931, Gandhi was invited to speak to the British Parliament.
As Gandhi was one of the most vocal supporters of Indian independence, his visit was greeted with suspicion and caution by a parliament who strongly opposed Gandhi’s passion. The great leader stood with no notes and spoke for two hours.
He spoke eloquently and with passion, and when he finished, his audience stood and applauded as one. It was an extraordinary moment for a truly remarkable man.
Later, an English journalist asked one of Gandhi’s assistants how he was able to stand with no notes and speak so brilliantly for such a long time.
The assistant smiled and is quoted as saying, “You don’t understand Gandhi.  You see, What he thinks is what he feels. What he feels is what he says. What he says is what he does. What Gandhi feels, what he thinks, what he says, and what he does are all the same. He does not need notes.”
If you want to be an effective leader, what you feel, what you think, what you say and what you do need to be aligned.
The same is true if you want to be a great parent, an effective communicator or have aspirations to do anything truly remarkable with your life.
When Bill Gates prophesied that the day would come when every desk would have a PC on it, people didn’t believe it.  But his words were aligned with his belief, his feelings and he took massive action to make it happen.
What about you?
What are your goals?
What do you believe is possible?
If you can get this right, you’re well on your way, and you won’t need notes to remind you.


Mountain Man...

To have a dream and a plan to achieve it is not enough. You also need the effort to accomplish that dream.
What idea, dream or pursuit are you trying to bring to fruition? Raising a child? Nurturing a business to viability? Developing a talent? Writing a book? Building a healthy relationship? Regaining strength after an injury?
Regardless of what you’re building, growing, developing, or creating — you may find it taking far more time to complete than you ever imagined. Will you press on regardless? Dashrath did. The Mountain Man did not give up.  In 1959, Dashrath Manjhi’s wife, Falguni Devi, died from lack of medical care. To honor her life, Dashrath Manjhi decided to do something about the problem his village faced of being so far away from medical care. His solution was to carve a path in the Gehlour hills so he and his village could walk one kilometer to the village hospital, not 70 kilometers.
Using a hammer and chisel, Dashrath Manjhi began his journey through the mountain in 1960. He worked day and night to make life better for the people of his village. Then the day finally came when the 360-foot corridor was carved through the mountain and the pathway complete. Because of this achievement, Dashrath became known as the Mountain Man. It only took him 22 years to complete.!
How long is it taking you?
Was the Mountain Man questioned while he worked? Most likely. He probably heard words like, “Dashrath, it’s not worth it. It’s OK, we’ll just walk around. It’s impossible what you’re attempting to do.” Fortunately for his neighbors, he didn’t listen, but pressed on day and night until the job was done.
What worthwhile goal or dream are you working on that might take longer than you thought it would? Assuming you have the raw materials (talent, capacity, know how, resources) to achieve the goal, all that’s missing is the necessary sweat to complete the task.
I’m chiseling my way to a higher level!  What mountain do you need to chisel your way through?...Just Chisel it! All the very Best!


Anger Management

Once upon a time there was a little boy who was talented, creative, handsome, and extremely bright. A natural leader. The kind of person everyone would normally have wanted on their team or project. But he was also self-centered and had a very bad temper. When he got angry, he usually said, and often did, some very hurtful things. In fact, he seemed to have little regard for those around him. Even friends. So, naturally, he had few. “But,” he told himself, “that just shows how stupid most people are!”
As he grew, his parents became concerned about this personality flaw, and pondered long and hard about what they should do. Finally, the father had an idea. And he struck a bargain with his son. He gave him a bag of nails, and a BIG hammer. “Whenever you lose your temper,” he told the boy, “I want you to really let it out. Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that old fence out back. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”
Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence (That was one angry young man!). Gradually, over a period of weeks, the number dwindled down. Holding his temper proved to be easier than driving nails into the fence! Finally, the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He felt mighty proud as he told his parents about that accomplishment.
“As a sign of your success,” his father responded, “you get to PULL OUT one nail. In fact, you can do that each day that you don’t lose your temper even once.”  Well, many weeks passed. Finally, one day the young boy was able to report proudly that all the nails were gone.
At that point, the father asked his son to walk out back with him and take one more good look at the fence. “You have done well, my son,” he said. “But I want you to notice the holes that are left. No matter what happens from now on, this fence will never be the same. Saying or doing hurtful things in anger produces the same kind of result. There will always be a scar. It won’t matter how many times you say you’re sorry, or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. And a verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. People are much more valuable than an old fence. They make us smile. They help us succeed. Some will even become friends who share our joys, and support us through bad times. And, if they trust us, they will also open their hearts to us. That means we need to treat everyone with love and respect. We need to prevent as many of those scars as we can.”
A most valuable lesson, don’t you think? And a reminder, most of us need, from time to time. Everyone gets angry occasionally. The real test is what we DO with it.
If we are wise, we will spend our time building bridges rather than barriers in our relationships.


When should we use the words “I have to” and “I want to”...

For many years in every morning at 10 o’clock sharp, a business woman had visited her mother in a nursing home. They were very close and she loved her very much. Sometimes she had business meetings in that time of day (10 o’clock) and her answer was always the same: “I cannot, I have to visit my mother.” Then her mother died. Shortly afterward, someone had asked the woman for a meeting at 10 o’clock. Suddenly realized that she could no longer visit her mother. And her next thought was: “Oh, if I could visit my mother once again.” From that moment I have to became I want to. Pleasant things in life are the ones we want to do. “Today I want to go to theater” or “I want to go on vacation next week.” Things that are burdening us are the ones that need to be done. “Tomorrow I have to wake up at 6:30 to go to work” or “I have to clean up the house.” Because perceptions hinder our thoughts and actions, try replacing I have to with I want to. Instead of saying “I have to go to work“, think of those that don’t have a job and you can say with enthusiasm “Tomorrow I want to go to work.” Instead of saying “I have to clean up“, think about how your home looks when it’s clean and then you can easily say “I want to clean up.” In time it will be easier to use I want to. It’s amazing what a change of attitude occurs simply because of using words that do not involve constraint or obligation. You will see that by using this exercise, things that need to be done will become more simple and easy.


A mosquito in a room seems infinitesimal.
The room is so large and the insect so tiny.
Then the lights go off and everything is silent.
Something so small and insignificant suddenly becomes the most important thing in the room as the search starts to shut it up so that the inhabitants can sleep.
There’s a saying that if you ever think you’re too small to make a difference, try sleeping in a room with a mosquito.
You may think that you’re only one person.
You’re small.
You’re insignificant.
You’re inconsequential.
But there’s something about you.
Something unique.
Something remarkable.
Something that can make the world a better place.


The Marathon Runner – A Story About Progressing Towards Your Goals...

A young runner was very excited.  After months of intense training, he was running in his very first marathon. After the starter’s gun went off, he started with great enthusiasm, taking great strides and building a strong rhythm.
However, after a few miles, he began to tire and he felt like stopping.  “Don’t stop!  If you can’t run, at least you can jog,” said a small voice in his head. So, he slowed to a jog and was able to continue along the road, if a little slower than before.
After a few more miles, the lactic acid had really started to build and his legs were feeling weak.  Again, he felt like stopping. “Don’t stop!  If you can’t run, at least you can walk,” said the same voice. So, he walked.
Whilst the progress was slower and other runners were passing him by, he was still gradually moving towards the finish line. After a while, his left leg began to cramp badly and he was in a lot of pain.  Now, he was seriously considering giving up.  “Don’t stop!  If you can’t walk, at least you can hobble.” And so he hobbled, dragging his left leg as he painfully ambled along the road. 
He was getting close to the end now, but was in incredible pain.  The temptation to stop was strong, he didn’t feel like he could go on any more.  “Don’t stop!  If you can’t hobble, at least you can crawl,” said the voice.  “That’s ridiculous,” the runner responded to himself. “I can’t crawl in front of all of these people, I’ll look like an idiot!”  “If you can’t run, and you can’t jog, and you can’t walk, and you can’t hobble, but you still want to finish the race, you’ll do whatever you can to get across the line. ”So, slightly embarrassed, the young man got down on his hands and knees and crawled until he managed to make it across the finish line.
Utterly exhausted, he lay down on the ground for a moment, until someone asked if he was OK.“OK?  I’ve just finished a marathon, I feel awesome!”  He responded and jumped to his feet with enthusiasm, forgetting momentarily the pain that he was in as he raised his arms in celebration.
As you read this story, think of how many times people give up on their dreams as they believe that they can’t keep going, when perhaps they just need to find another way to keep making progress.  We won’t always have the energy, enthusiasm or motivation to run headlong towards our goals, but you’ll be surprised at how much progress you’ll be able to make if, instead of stopping, you slow down a little.
I don’t know what your goals are, what the obstacles in front of you are or how you feel about life at the moment. But this I do know.
Every day…Every single day…You can make progress!
I know that I would rather crawl across the line than stop halfway and regret it for the rest of my life.


Building Brick by Brick

If you’re building a house, you need to lay the first brick. Of course, one brick doesn’t make a house, but you can’t build something without laying that first brick. Then comes brick number two, but it still doesn’t look like a house. Then number three, four and so on, until finally the house is complete.
To do anything significant in life requires us to start with a single brick. Too often, we want the finished product immediately, but life doesn’t work that way.
The successful career, the long-lasting relationship and the thriving business all require an initial action that doesn’t look like the end product. But step by step, brick by brick, moment by moment, you get closer to your goal.
So stop staring at the vacant land and get started. Lay the first brick and build your plan.


“Throw your heart over the bar and your body will follow...

A Famous trapeze artist was instructing his students how to perform on the high trapeze bar. Finally, having given full explanations and instruction in this skill, he told them to demonstrate their ability.
One student, looking up at the insecure perch upon which he must perform, was suddenly filled with fear. He froze completely. He had a terrifying vision of himself falling to the ground. He couldn’t move a muscle, so deep was his fright. “I can’t do it! I can’t do it!” he gasped.
The instructor put his arm around the boy’s shoulder and said, “Son, you can do it, and I will tell you how.”
Then he made a statement which is of inestimable importance.
It is one of the wisest remarks I have ever heard. He said, “Throw your heart over the bar and your body will follow.
Copy that one sentence.  Write it on a card and put it in your pocket.  Place it under the glass on your desktop.  Tack it up on your wall.  Better still, write it on your mind, you who really want to do something with life.  it’s packed with power, that sentence, “Throw your heart over the bar and your body will follow.
Heart is the symbol of creative activity.  Fire the heart with where you want to go and what you want to be.  Get it so deeply fixed in your unconscious that you will not take no for an answer, then your entire personality will follow where your heart leads.  “Throw your heart over the bar” means to throw your faith over your difficulty.  In other words, throw the spiritual essence of you over the bar and your material self will follow in the victory groove thus pioneered by your faith-inspired mind.  Expect the best, not the worst, and you will attain your heart’s desire.  It is what is in the heart of you, either good or bad, strong or weak, that finally comes to you.


How High Can You Jump?

Flea trainers have observed a predictable and strange habit of fleas while training them. Fleas are trained by putting them in a cardboard box with a top on it. The fleas will jump up and hit the top of the cardboard box over and over and over again. As you watch them jump and hit the lid, something very interesting becomes obvious. The fleas continue to jump, but they are no longer jumping high enough to hit the top. Apparently, Excedrin headache 1738 forces them to limit the height of their jump.
When you take off the lid, the fleas continue to jump, but they will not jump out of the box. They won’t jump out because they can’t jump out. Why? The reason is simple. They have conditioned themselves to jump just so high. Once they have conditioned themselves to jump just so high, that’s all they can do!
Many times, people do the same thing. They restrict themselves and never reach their potential. Just like the fleas, they fail to jump higher, thinking they are doing all they can do. 


The Power of Thoughts

One day, a yogi and his disciple arrived in the big city. They had no money with them, but they needed food and a place to stay. The disciple was sure that they were going to beg for their food, and sleep in the park at night.
"There is a big park not far from here. We can sleep there at night", said the disciple.
"In the open air?" Asked the yogi.
"Yes", responded the student.

The yogi smiled and said: "No, tonight we are going to sleep in a hotel and eat there too".

The student was amazed and exclaimed, "We cannot afford that!"
"Come and sit down", said the yogi.
They both sat down on the ground, and the yogi said:
"When you focus your mind intently on any subject, it comes to pass."
The yogi closed his eyes and started to meditate with full concentration. After about ten minutes he got up and started to walk, with his disciple following him. They walked through several streets and alleys, until they arrived at a hotel.
"Come, let's enter inside", the yogi said to his disciple.
They just set foot in the entrance, when a well-dressed man approached them.
"I am the manager of this hotel. You look like traveling swamis, and I believe you have no money. Would you like to work in the kitchen, and in return I'll give you food and a place to stay?"
"Fine", the yogi responded.
The disciple was perplexed and asked the yogi: "Did you use any magic? How did you do that?"
The yogi smiled and said, "I wanted to show you how the power of thoughts works. When you think with full and strong concentration about something that you want to happen, and your mind does not resist the subject of your thought, your thought materializes."
"The secret is concentrating, visualizing, seeing details, having faith and projecting mental and emotional energy into the mental scene. These are the general prerequisites. When your mind is empty from thoughts, and only one single thought is allowed to enter, it gains a very great power. One should be very careful with what he thinks. A concentrated thought is powerful, and exerts a very strong influence."
The disciple looked at his teacher and said: "I see that I have to sharpen my concentration in order to be able to use this power."
"Yes, this is the first step", the yogi replied.


Free Range Hens – A Story about Existing or Living by Darren

Tom went to visit his mentor, Dwyer, in his small cabin on the edge of town.
“What do people need to be happy?” Tom asked.
“What do you think?” Dwyer asked back.
Tom thought for a moment.
“I think that if people have their basic needs met, you know, food and a place to live, and if they are safe from harm and have a job to do, that should be enough to keep them happy.”
Dwyer frowned.  Clearly he disagreed. The old man jumped to his feet and marched to the door, beckoning his young friend to follow him. They trudged towards a farm that contained a large barn and as they got closer, Tom could hear an infernal racket coming from inside.
Dwyer opened the door and Tom looked inside with amazement.  He saw row after row of chickens, each of them in their own tiny cages.
Dwyer looked at Tom and asked pointedly, “Do they have food?”
“Do they have shelter?”
“I guess so.”
“Are they safe from foxes and other predators?”
“Do they have a job to do?”
“They lay eggs.”
“Do they look happy?”
Tom looked closer at the hens.  He didn’t really know what a happy chicken looked like.  Do they smile?  Can a chicken even be happy?
Before he could answer, Dwyer said, “Come with me.” They left this farm and walked down a long lane towards another property.
On the second farm was a large field, full of chickens. They weren’t cooped up, they were foraging around in the field pecking for food. “Do these chickens look happy?” asked Dwyer.
It seemed like an odd question, but Tom inspected them anyway and it occurred to him that there was a different atmosphere here.  These hens seemed to be in a more natural state and they seemed more chickeny as a result. “Perhaps,” Tom responded, not wanting to commit.
“Of course they are, don’t be so absurd,” retorted the old man. “Here’s the point.  Both sets of hens have food, shelter and a job to do.  The first ones are confined to a small area where all that they can do is exist, but these hens, these beautiful birds, even though they are more exposed to the foxes and hawks of the world, have an opportunity to really live.”
“We all have a serious choice to make,” Dwyer continued, “We can either live like battery hens, in a confined, seemingly safe existence, where we expect that everything will be brought to us, albeit in very small portions, or we can break free and live like free range chickens, foraging around in a less predictable, slightly more dangerous world and truly live.  You asked about happiness before.  You can’t be happy if you’re merely existing, you have to live, son.”
Tom got it and thanked his mentor.


Be in Present...

A delightful story is told about a young man who applied for a job as a telegraph operator. He answered an ad in the newspaper and went to the telegraph office to await an interview. Though he knew Morse Code and was qualified in every other way, seven other applicants were also waiting in the large, noisy office.
He saw customers coming and going and heard a telegraph clacking away in the background. He also noticed a sign on the receptionist’s counter instructing applicants to fill out a form and wait to be summoned to an inner office for an interview. He filled out the form and sat down to wait.
After a few minutes, the young man stood up, crossed the room to the door of the inner office, and walked right in. Naturally the other applicants perked up, wondering why he had been so bold. They talked among themselves and finally determined that, since nobody had been summoned to interview yet, the man would likely be reprimanded for not following instructions and possibly disqualified for the job.
Within a few minutes, however, the young man emerged from the inner office escorted by the interviewer, who announced to the other applicants, “Thank you all very much for coming, but the job has just been filled.”
They were all confused and one man spoke up: “Wait a minute- I don’t understand. We have been waiting longer than he and we never even got a chance to be interviewed.” The employer responded, “All the time you’ve been sitting here, the telegraph has been ticking out the following message: ‘If you understand this, then come right in. The job is yours.’”
The lessons here is to devote yourself completely to whatever task is before you – even if your passion lies elsewhere. Being present and fully alive in the moment will open the door to opportunities others will only see in hindsight. When you’re present, you’ll make the most of every minute, and minutes lived fully add up to a life lived magnificently.


Gratitude - The Highest ROI Management Tool in Business

"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful."
The highest ROI management tool I know is one that is available to everyone, costs essentially nothing, and is a proven driver of workplace productivity. That tool is Gratitude.
As obvious as this may sound to some, it is oftentimes overlooked, particularly in companies and among teams for whom seemingly no results are good enough and no bar is ever set high enough. Yet, developing a high-performance culture and one that encourages the expression of gratitude shouldn't be at odds. To the contrary, recognition can be an invaluable source of motivation and subsequently inspire people to do their best work. Looking back on my career, I've seen and experienced this dynamic more times than I can count, and conversely, have witnessed the negative repercussions of managers who take their teams for granted.
Here are a few things to consider the next time you're inclined to show your appreciation for a job well done:
1. Be thoughtful
Not all thank yous are created equal. Be thoughtful about the how. Sometimes it's best to do it in person, in the moment. Other times, an email or call might make sense, especially if the person is remote. Some of the most memorable thank yous I've received were handwritten notes (a few of which I still keep on a table behind my desk in the office).
Reid Hoffman, the founder of LinkedIn, has elevated this kind of recognition to an art form. For example, mention offhandedly to him that you like dark chocolate, and don't be surprised if several months later, he returns back from his latest trip to Europe with a few specialty bars he purchased for you, inevitably delivered with a resounding thanks for the positive difference you're making to the company.
2. Be genuine
More often than not, the words you communicate are not nearly as important as the thought and energy behind them. The person on the receiving end can tell the difference between someone going through the motions and deeply heartfelt appreciation. When it comes to expressing gratitude, always be 100% genuine.
For example, the next time an email thread starts up congratulating a team on their most recent win, try to refrain from adding the fifth or sixth "Great job!" and give some thought to why you're appreciative for their specific accomplishment. Conveying the latter will make all the difference.
Recently, I was asked to join one of our teams in celebrating their recent launch of a major product initiative. In addition to the standard t-shirts, cupcakes, and group photo, the team member who organized the event also asked another exec and me to share the best compliment we had heard about the product, and some of the key learnings we took away from the launch. The team was so appreciative of the positive feedback that we ended up receiving thank-yous for our thank-yous.
3. Pick your spots
When thinking about when to give thanks, make sure to apply The Goldilocks Principle: Compliment someone too often and your words will ultimately ring hollow; don't say thank-you enough and your top talent will ultimately feel so under-appreciated you'll potentially face retention issues. However, express appreciation at just the right time and you'll make a huge difference in the way that person thinks about their role and what it means to be a part of your team.
4. Solicit suggestions
When your organization is smaller, and everyone is located in one place, it's fairly easy to be aware of who is doing what and is most deserving of praise. However, as a successful organization inevitably scales to larger numbers of employees and multiple offices around the world, it can become more challenging to stay on top of the day-to-day progress of the team. One way of overcoming this dynamic is by making sure you remain in the flow of information regarding their wins, e.g. dashboards, wikis, weekly updates, etc. At LinkedIn, we conduct a global all-hands every other week which provides a natural channel to identify and recognize some of the team's most important accomplishments.
Another effective technique is to just ask. From time to time, remind your directs to mention individuals or teams you may have less direct exposure to, but who they feel are deserving of a special call-out. The further away from headquarters they sit, and the more junior they are, the better. You'll be amazed at how appreciative the people on the receiving end of those calls and emails will be.
5. Learn how to take a compliment
The better you are at receiving a compliment, the more effective you'll be at giving one. Many people struggle when on the receiving end of a kind word, inevitably looking down at their shoes, shuffling uncomfortably, and mumbling something about how it was truly a team effort. While humility is a highly valued trait, disconnection is not, yet the latter is typically what happens when these scenarios play out.
The next time someone compliments you on a job well done, try grounding yourself from the feet up, look the person straight in the eye, and let them know how much it means to you. That sense of recognition and connection is what we're all trying to achieve. It's also what ultimately makes the difference between a perfunctory thank you and an expression of gratitude the recipient won't soon forget.
One last note: Every now and again, the same senior tech executive I mentioned earlier will remind me of the first time I shared my views with him on the importance of gratitude. Despite the fact that conversation took place nearly eight years ago, he thanks me every time. The most recent example occurred just a couple of weeks ago. It was ultimately the reason I wrote this post.
Jeff Weiner
CEO, Linkedin

How Do You Communicate Your Message?

Educator Daphne Koller recently gave a TED talk that contained the following contrasting quotes:
Firstly, from Mark Twain,
College is a place where a professor’s lecture notes go straight to the students’ lecture notes, without passing through the brains of either.
And then this from Plutarch,
The mind is not a vessel that needs filling, but wood that needs igniting.
These quotes describe the difference between giving information that no-one cares about and getting your audience excited about what you’re sharing.
Whether you’re a business leader, preacher, teacher, salesman, blogger, coach, parent or any other person who has to communicate messages, this is an important distinction.
You could just give information, show some charts, tell people how much you know about a subject, use big words and talk for 30 minutes.  Blah, blah, blah!
Some people even kid themselves that if they use a PowerPoint presentation, then it will automatically be interesting.
But if the message doesn’t resonate and people aren’t changed by the experience, then you’ve just wasted everyone’s time, including your own.
Alternatively, you can tell fascinating stories, be energetic with your body language, be contagious in your level of enthusiasm, ask intelligent questions, practice your delivery beforehand and give your audience a call to action that’s persuasive, compelling and inspirational.
Whatever your context is, if your audience walks away unchanged, it’s your responsibility.
And if they walk away ready for action, that’s also because of your skill as a communicator.
If your message is important enough, don’t waste it by boring people, use it to get them excited.
Don’t fill them with information, light them on fire with enthusiasm!
That’s how the world gets changed!


A Story About Finding Motivation...

Putting Logs in the Fire…
Tom went to see his mentor, Dwyer as he was feeling frustrated.
It was a cold winter’s night and the mentor had his fire going.
“What’s your problem, Tom?” the mentor asked.
“I just can’t seem to find the motivation required to finish a project that I’m working on at the moment.”
“Hmmph,” responded Dwyer.
“Is that all you can say?” asked Tom.
“I need time to think.  Can you put that log on the fire?”
They sat in silence for a few minutes, watching the fire burn.
“So, what should I do about my motivation levels?” asked Tom.
“Put another log on the fire.”
“OK, but can we talk about my motivation levels afterwards?”
“Just let me think for a while,” replied Dwyer.
They waited for a few more minutes as the fire crackled.
“Do you have an answer yet?” Tom asked impatiently.
“I need just a little more time.  Can you put that log on the fire?”
“Yes, but then I want an answer, you’re supposed to be my mentor,” said Tom.
The log went on and Dwyer turned to face his young protégé.
“Motivation is like a fire, it will die off if you don’t keep giving fuel to keep it burning.”
“How do I do that?” enquired Tom.
“There are five logs you can use, so whenever you feel the fire is fading, ask yourself these questions:
1. What got you started?
2. What is your goal?
3. What can you learn today?
4. What action can I take right now?
5. Which positive people can I hang out with who will influence me?”
Tom smiled and jumped to his feet.
“What, going already?” asked Dwyer.
“You bet,” Tom replied.  ”I have work to do, I can feel the fire rising already.”
I don’t know about you, but there are occasions when my motivation levels wane.
I love the old Zig Ziglar quote that says,
“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily”.
By asking yourself Dwyer’s questions, you can find a way to sustain your motivation levels and keep the fire burning.


Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become.
You never know who these people may be but, when you lock eyes with them, you know that every moment, they will affect your life in some profound way. And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair but, upon reflection, you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, will power or heart.
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, Injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. Safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless. The people you meet affect your life. The successes and downfalls that you experience can create who you are, and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones.
If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to. If someone loves you, love them back, unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to little things. Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen, set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you…


What's better than vision?

You must have all been given a lecture at one time or another about the importance of having a vision. Even leadership expert John Maxwell says that an indispensable quality of a leader is to have a vision. It is also very clear that without vision, people perish." So no doubt about it, having a vision is important to success. But surprise ! There's something more potent than a vision. It's a CAUSE.
If all you're doing is trying to reach your vision or you're pitted against someone fighting for a cause, chances are you'll lose. The Vietnam War is a classic example. Literally with sticks and stones, the Viet Cong beat the heavily armed US Army to surrender, primarily because the US has a vision to win the war, but the Vietnamese were fighting for a cause. In the realm of business, many leaders have visions of making their company No. 1, or grabbing market share, or forever increasing profits.  
Nothing really wrong with that vision, but take the example of Sony founder Akio Morita. He did not just have a vision to build the biggest electronics company in the world. In his biography, " Made in Japan" he reveals that the real reason he set up Sony was to help rebuild his country, which had just been bettered by war. He had a cause he was fighting for. His vision to be an electronics giant was secondary.
What's the difference between a vision and a cause? Here's what sets them apart. No one is wiling to die for a vision. People will die for a cause. You possess a vision. A cause possesses you. A vision lies in your hands. A cause lies in your heart. A vision involves sacrifice. A cause involves the ultimate sacrifice. Just a word of caution. You must have the right vision, and you must be fighting for the right cause.
In the end, right will always win out. It may take time, and it may take long. But if you have the right vision and are fighting for the right cause, you will prevail. If not, no matter how sincere you are, if you are not fighting for what is right, you will ultimately fail. It is said : "To whom much is given, much is required." Having been given the opportunity to study, no doubt, much has been given to you in terms of an excellent education. Don't forget that in return, much is now required of you to use that education not just for yourself, but for others. And as you move up and start reaching the pinnacle of success, even more will be required of you to look at the welfare of others, of society and of the country.



The secret of happiness

A certain shopkeeper sent his son to learn about the secret of happiness from the wisest man in the world. The lad wandered through the desert for 40 days, and finally came upon a beautiful castle, high atop a mountain. It was there that the wise man lived.
Rather than finding a saintly man, though, our hero, on entering the main room of the castle, saw a hive of activity: tradesmen came and went, people were conversing in the corners, a small orchestra was playing soft music, and there was a table covered with platters of the most delicious food in that part of the world. The wise man conversed with everyone, and the boy had to wait for two hours before it was his turn to be given the man’s attention.
The wise man listened attentively to the boy’s explanation of why he had come, but told him that he didn’t have time just then to explain the secret of happiness. He suggested that the boy look around the palace and return in two hours.
Meanwhile, I want to ask you to do something”, said the wise man, handing the boy a teaspoon that held two drops of oil. “As you wander around, carry this spoon with you without allowing the oil to spill”.
The boy began climbing and descending the many stairways of the palace, keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. After two hours, he returned to the room where the wise man was.
“Well”, asked the wise man, “Did you see the Persian tapestries that are hanging in my dining hall? Did you see the garden that it took the master gardener ten years to create? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?”
The boy was embarrassed, and confessed that he had observed nothing. His only concern had been not to spill the oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.
“Then go back and observe the marvels of my world”, said the wise man. “You cannot trust a man if you don’t know his house”.
Relieved, the boy picked up the spoon and returned to his exploration of the palace, this time observing all of the works of art on the ceilings and the walls. He saw the gardens, the mountains all around him, the beauty of the flowers, and the taste with which everything had been selected. Upon returning to the wise man, he related in detail everything he had seen.
“But where are the drops of oil I entrusted to you?” asked the wise man. Looking down at the spoon he held, the boy saw that the oil was gone.
“Well, there is only one piece of advice I can give you”, said the wisest of wise men. “The secret of happiness is to see all the marvels of the world and never to forget the drops of oil on the spoon”.


Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone.

Have you ever face a problem that was so foggy, so dense, so cumbersome… that whatever you tried seemed to only contribute to the problem or maintain a state of disorder? In the world we live in today, which tends to focus on the “hero of the day”, we often think that we have to “do something”. You’ve probably heard this sentence “don’t just stand there, do something”. At times, one could not be more wrong. So wrong, that one should really say, “Don’t just do something, stand there”.
It is, for instance, particularly true in situations of very intense, high-stakes, high-emotions arguments, where often, whatever one may say will be misinterpreted by the other party. In these cases, not doing anything is a great way not only to let the muddy waters clear naturally, but it is also the best way not to get all the mud on your face! May you have a clear day, and if muddy, let it alone.


Enjoy Your Coffee..

A Group of friends, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old University Professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling them to help themselves to the coffee.
When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: “If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups…..And then began envying each other’s cups.
Now consider this: “Life is the COFFEE; the jobs, money and position in the society are the CUPS. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee
NOTE: The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.


Put Your Glass Down!

The Professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see & asked the students “How much do you think this glass weighs?”
’50gms!’….. ’100gms!’ …..’125 gms’ …the students answered.
“I really don’t know unless I weigh it,” said the professor, “but, my question is:
What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?”…. .
‘Nothing’ …..the students said.
‘Ok what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?’ the professor asked.
‘Your arm would begin to ache’ said one of the student
“You’re right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?”
“Your arm could go numb; you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis & have to go to hospital for sure!”
….. Ventured another student & all the students laughed
“Very good.
But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?” Asked the professor.
‘No’…. Was the answer.
“Then what caused the arm ache & the muscle stress?”
The students were puzzled.
“What should I do now to come out of pain?” asked professor again.
“Put the glass down!” said one of the students
“Exactly!” said the professor.
Life’s problems are something like this.
Hold it for a few minutes in your head & they seem OK.
Think of them for a long time & they begin to ache.
Hold it even longer & they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything.
It’s important to think of the challenges or problems in your life, But EVEN MORE IMPORTANT is to ‘PUT THEM DOWN’ at the end of every day before you go to sleep…
That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh &strong & can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way!
So, when you start your day today, Remember friend to ‘PUT THE GLASS DOWN TODAY!


Boy’s Job Appraisal

A little boy went into a drug store, reached for a soda carton and pulled it over to the telephone. He climbed onto the carton so that he could reach the buttons on the phone and proceeded to punch in seven digits (phone numbers).  The store-owner observed and listened to the conversation.
Boy: ‘Lady, Can you give me the job of cutting your lawn?
Woman: (at the other end of the phone line): ‘I already have someone to cut my lawn.’
Boy: ‘Lady, I will cut your lawn for half the price of the person who cuts your lawn now.’
Woman: I’m very satisfied with the person who is presently cutting my lawn.
Boy: (with more perseverance) : ‘Lady, I’ll even sweep your curb and your sidewalk, so on Sunday you will have the prettiest lawn in all of Palm beach , Florida.’
Woman: No, thank you.
With a smile on his face, the little boy replaced the receiver. The store-owner, who was listening to all this, walked over to the boy.
Store Owner: ‘Son… I like your attitude; I like that positive spirit and would like to offer you a job.’
Boy: ‘No thanks.’
Store Owner: But you were really pleading for one.
Boy: No Sir, I was just checking my performance at the Job I already have. I am the one who is working for that lady I was talking to!’
Moral: This is what we call ‘Self Appraisal’.  Every time if we don’t get ahead of others, we blame others for it.  We should look to our self and compare, find own weaknesses and work hard to throw away weaknesses.  Always Work Hard, Honest and with full Dedication.  It will always pay up.


Karoly Takacs 

Karoly Takacs, You’ve probably never heard of him. However, in Hungary, he’s a national hero – everybody there knows his name and his incredible story. After reading his story, you’ll never forget him…
In 1938, Karoly Takacs of the Hungarian Army, was the top pistol shooter in the world. He was expected to win the gold in the 1940 Olympic Games scheduled for Tokyo.
Those expectations vanished one terrible day just months before the Olympics. While training with his army squad, a hand grenade exploded in Takacs’ right hand, and Takacs’ shooting hand was blown off.
Takacs spent a month in the hospital depressed at both the loss of his hand, and the end to his Olympic dream. At that point most people would have quit. And they would have probably spent the rest of their life feeling sorry for themselves. Most people would have quit but not Takacs. Takacs was a winner. He did the unthinkable; he picked himself up, dusted himself off, and decided to learn how to shoot with his left hand! Instead of focusing on what he didn’t have – a world class right shooting hand, he decided to focus on what he did have- a healthy left hand that with time, could be developed to shoot like a champion.
For months Takacs practiced by himself. No one knew what he was doing. Maybe he didn’t want to subject himself to people who most certainly would have discouraged him from his rekindled dream.
In the spring of 1939 he showed up at the Hungarian National Pistol Shooting Championship. Other shooters approached Takacs to give him their condolences and to congratulate him on having the strength to come watch them shoot. They were surprised when he said, “I didn’t come to watch, I came to compete.” They were even more surprised when Takacs won!
The 1940 and 1944 Olympics were cancelled because of World War II. It looked like Takacs’ Olympic Dream would never have a chance to realize itself. But Takacs kept training and in 1948 he qualified for the London Olympics. At the age of 38, Takacs won the Gold Medal and set a new world record in pistol shooting. Four years later, Takacs won the Gold Medal again at the 1952 Helsinki Olympics. Takacs – a man with the mental toughness to bounce back from anything. Takacs definitely had a right to feel sorry for himself. He had a right to stay depressed and to ask himself “Why me?” for the rest of his life. He had the right to act like a mediocre man.
Takacs could have let his terrible accident cause him to become permanently discouraged, to take up heavy drinking, to quit on life alltogether, and maybe even to end his own life. He could have acted like a loser.
But Takacs made the DECISION to dig deep inside and to find a solution. To pick himself up and to learn to shoot all over again. Winners always search for a solution. Losers always search for an escape.
Next time you get knocked down, like a winner. DECIDE to act like Takacs. Get up quickly, take action, and astound the world!


The Tale of Two Seeds

Two seeds lay side by side in the fertile soil.
The first seed said, "I want to grow! I want to send my roots deep into the soil beneath me, and thrust my sprouts through the earth's crust above me ... I want to unfurl my tender buds like banners to announce the arrival of spring ... I want to feel the warmth of the sun on my face and the blessing of the morning dew on my petals!"
And so she grew.…….
The second seed said, "Hmmmm. If I send my roots into the ground below, I don't know what I will encounter in the dark. If I push my way through the hard soil above me I may damage my delicate sprouts ... what if I let my buds open and a snail tries to eat them? And if I were to open my blossoms, a small child may pull me from the ground. No, it is much better for me to wait until it is safe."
And so she waited.…….
A yard hen scratching around in the early spring ground for food found the waiting seed and promptly ate it.
Moral of  the story
Those of us who have  goals and dreams will grow and prosper.
Those of us who refuse to take risks will get swallowed up by life.


The Candle & The Fire

Tom was tired when he went to see his mentor. They sat quietly in his old cabin, whittling wood with their knives in front of the fireplace when Tom finally spoke up. “I don’t know how you do it,” he said. “Do what?” asked his mentor.
“I don’t know how you stay motivated to help people after so many years.  I feel like giving up and I’ve hardly started.” His mentor smiled wryly and replied, “Can you blow out that candle for me?” Tom did as he was asked. “Now, can you blow out this fire?  Dwyer asked. “Don’t be silly,” Tom replied, “Of course I can’t.”
He put down his knife and his piece of wood and looked his protégé in the eye. “When your motivation is as small as the candle’s flame, it’s easy to extinguish, but when it rages like the fire you see before you, nothing can blow it out.” My challenge to you is to find a reason for doing what you do that can’t be extinguished when you feel tired, when you come up against obstacles and when you don’t feel as though you are making any progress.  If you don’t have a compelling reason to press on, it’s too easy to give up.
So let me ask you, is your motivation level like a candle or a fire? And what are you going to do to keep it from dying down?  Tom realized his ignorance and promised his mentor, never to get dejected whatsoever!
So Friends, Have a Fire like motivation so that it can’t be extinguished by any force! All the best!


Right Decision

At the 1924 Olympic Games in Paris, the sport of canoe racing was added to the list of international competitions. The favorite team in the four-man canoe race was the United States team. One member of that team was a young man by the name of Bill Havens.
As the time for the Olympics neared, it became clear that Bill's wife would give birth to their first child about the time that the U.S. team would be competing in the Paris games. In 1924 there were no jet airliners from Paris to the United States, only slow ocean going ships. And so Bill found himself in a dilemma. Should he go to Paris and risk not being at his wife's side when their baby was born? Or should he withdraw from the team and remain with his family?
Bill's wife insisted that he go to Paris. After all, competing in the Olympics was the culmination of a lifelong dream. But Bill felt conflicted and, after much soul searching, decided to withdraw from the competition and remain home, where he could support his wife when the child arrived. He considered being at her side his highest priority, even higher than going to Paris to fulfill his dream.
As it turned out, the United States four-man canoe team won the gold medal in Paris. And Bill's wife was late in giving birth to their child. She was so late, in fact, that Bill could have competed in the event and returned home in time to be with her when she gave birth.
People said, "What a shame." But Bill said he had no regrets. For the rest of his life, he believed he had made the better decision.
Bill Havens knew what was most important to him. Not everybody figures that out. And he acted on what he believed was best. Not everybody has the strength of character to say no to something he or she truly wants in order to say yes to something that truly matters. But for Bill, it was the only way to peace; the only way to no regrets.
There is an interesting sequel to the story of Bill Havens...
The child eventually born to Bill and his wife was a boy, whom they named Frank. Twenty eight years later, in 1952, Bill received a cablegram from Frank. It was sent from Helsinki, Finland, where the 1952 Olympics were being held. The cablegram read: "Dad, I won. I'm bringing home the gold medal you lost while waiting for me to be born."
Frank Havens had just won the gold medal for the United States in the canoe racing event, a medal his father had dreamed of winning but never did.
Take right decision on right time and don’t look back.  Don’t think about the criticism or opposition!


When all think alike, then no one is thinking.

Right after the fall of communism, a Belgian company sent two representatives to look into the feasibility of selling their products in Russia.
Two different reports were received. “Nobody wears Western shoes here,” wrote the first representative, “if we install a factory here, we will suffer heavy losses.”
“Nobody wears Western shoes here,” wrote the second representative, “If we install a factory here, we will start the fashion trend and sell the entire production.”
It’s in our hands how we see life.



There once was a king who offered a prize to the artist who would paint the best picture of peace. Many artists tried. The king looked at all the pictures. But there were only two he really liked, and he had to choose between them.
One picture was of a calm lake. The lake was a perfect mirror for peacefully towering mountains all around it. Overhead was a blue sky with fluffy white clouds. All who saw this picture thought that it was a perfect picture of peace. 
The other picture had mountains, too. But these were rugged and bare. Above was an angry sky, from which rain fell and in which lightning played. Down the side of the mountain tumbled a foaming waterfall. This did not look peaceful at all. But when the king looked closely, he saw behind the waterfall a tiny bush growing in a crack in the rock. In the bush a mother bird had built her nest. There, in the midst of the rush of angry water, sat the mother bird on the nest - in perfect peace.  Which picture do you think won the prize? The king chose the second picture. Do you know why? 
"Because," explained the king, "peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart. That is the real meaning of peace."

Positive Vision

One teacher had two disciples. One of them had an auspicious positive vision and he always sought out good points from anything he observed while the other one had an inauspicious vision and always found out some negative or faults from his observations.
One day, the teacher went out to a park with both the disciples and while wandering in the garden, they came across a mango tree from which some ripe and juicy mangoes were hanging. On seeing this, the teacher thought to test both of his students. Therefore, he called them beside him and asked them to observe the tree full of mangoes very carefully. Then, he asked the first one, "my dear child, what do you think of this mango tree?"
The disciple answered instantly, "teacher, in spite of people hitting this tree with stones, it gives us sweet and juicy mangoes. It feels hurt but still it gives us fruits. I wish all human beings learn this important message from the mango tree - to share their belongings even if they have to suffer for this."
After that, the teacher asked the same question to the other disciple, "my dear child, what do you think of this mango tree?" the student aggressively answered, "teacher, this mango tree is no good and will not give mangoes by itself but only when we hit it with stones and sticks. Therefore, we should hit it hard to get sweet mangoes from it. That is the only way to get these mangoes. It is also clear from this tree that in order to get good fruits from others, we need to be violent and only when we become violent, then and only then will we get happiness."
Teacher was delighted with the answer given by the first student because he had an admirable vision and appreciated the tree with positive vision while on the other hand the second student's answer dissatisfied him because he saw the tree with negative vision and insisted on learning the wrong way of getting fruits in life. He showered his blessings on the first disciple whole-heartedly.
So friends, even though the situation is same, it still depends on how we interpret it, which shows our mental status and the way we think of others. Let's take an example of lovely roses that have thorns on them. A person with an inauspicious vision would say, "oh god! Even these beautiful roses have thorns on them", while a person with an auspicious vision would say, "wow! What a wonderful creation of nature - a beautiful rose amongst thorns."
Always develop a vision that can find out something good even from a bad thing or person. And by doing so, slowly your mind and intellect will become pure day by day.
Develop a positive vision and always find out something good from everything and everyone.
Positivity is the biggest strength in life. Success follows who are positive in all situations. Many great celebrities had one or more weaknesses but they were always positive for self, others and situations and hence became successful by overcoming all sorts of obstacles. A little poison of negativity about others in our mind can destroy our relationships with them. Everybody has definitely something that can be appreciated, we only need to apply positive vision and appreciate others.


Be humble, love and respect those around you.

Juan worked at a meat distribution factory. One day, when he finished with his work schedule, he went into the meat cold room to inspect something, but in a moment of bad luck, the door closed and he was locked inside with no help in sight.
Although he screamed and knocked with all his might, his cries went unheard as no one could hear him. Most of the workers had already gone, and outside the cold room it's impossible to hear what was going on inside. Five hours later, whilst Juan was on the verge of death, the security guard of the factory, eventually opened the door and saved Juan's life.
Juan then asked the security guard how he got to open the door, as it wasn't part of his work routine, and he explained thus: “I’ve been working in this factory for 35 years, hundreds of workers come in and out every day, but you're one of the few who greets me in the morning and says goodbye to me every night when leaving after working hours. Many treat me as if I am invisible.
Today, like every other day, you greeted me in your simple manner ' Hello ' at the entrance when resuming for work. But curiously, after working hours today, I observed I've not heard your ' bye! See you tomorrow '. Hence I decided to check around the factory. I look forward to your ' Hi ' and ' bye ' every day. To you, I am someone. By not hearing your farewell, I knew something had happened. 
Then I Sought and found you! 
Be humble, love and respect those around you. Try to have an impact on people in ways we can’t even imagine, especially the people that cross our path every day. Someone seemingly so insignificant and irrelevant today could be the only help you can get tomorrow.


You control how much negativity gets inside your head

Negativity will be everywhere you look; if you are looking for it that is. Similarly, if you choose to look for the positive, and become proactive about what you see, you will feel better about your environment almost immediately. It’s a strange phenomenon, but we actually have the ability to choose how we see and interpret our world. This is not the same as convincing yourself that the colour of a leaf is blue rather than green. Moreover, it’s about seeking out what else is in your field of vision or changing your perspective on an initially perceived negative element or vision.
Positive affirmations work great! And with practice, they become automatically part of your subconscious thoughts. Mastering your subconscious thoughts to become positive may not be as simple as flicking on a light. Real change may take weeks, months, or even years… especially if you’ve had a long history of negative thoughts and behaviors. However, there are many people who do have ‘that moment‘, when a light does suddenly glows and they seemingly change their thoughts in an instant. Eckhart Tolle writes about his sudden moment when his world became a little brighter in his 1997 best seller, The Power of Now.
If you have not had this moment, do not despair! If it’s a change you want to see happen, then an exciting journey awaits. As body builders take years to sculpt their physique, the mind too will takes a lot of work to get in shape. It will take a lot of focus, dedication, and ongoing discipline before you become a master, but there will be plenty of rewards along the way. It is a different journey for each of us, but an exciting one nonetheless.


The Unhappy Farmer – A Story About Contentment

Career expert, Dan Miller recently shared this story about a farmer who grew discontent with his farm.
A farmer complained about the lake on his property that always needed to have the fish thinned out.  The rolling hills made it more difficult for him to run the fence rows.  Sometimes he couldn’t even see his cows because they had so much territory to cover.  At night it was so dark it was hard to walk from the barn back to his house. He decided to sell the place and move somewhere really nice.  He called a real estate agent and made plans to sell his property.
A few days later he picked up the local paper, looking for a new place to live.  His eye caught an ad for a lovely country home in an ideal location – quiet and peaceful. It had soft rolling hills; a pristine lake stocked with bass, a classic barn surrounded by natural flowers and soft grass, and came complete with a wonderful herd of Black Angus cows.  It was just close enough to a small town to be convenient but far enough out to be uncluttered by city lights, traffic and noise.
He read the ad a second and then a third time before realising the real estate agent had given her description of the place he currently owned.  He called her and told her to cancel the ad.  He said, “I’ve changed my mind.  I’ve been looking for a place like that all my life.” It’s easy to complain about your current situation, but how would your life look to an outsider?
Is your job really that bad? Are your kids that annoying? Is your financial situation as dire as you really think it is?
Sometimes, just like the farmer, we need a new perspective on our circumstances to understand that our lives aren’t as bad as we sometimes believe.


The Miller, his son & their ass

Not everybody can make a good leader as leadership requires a different skill set and a high degree of responsibility and accountability.  
Let us read this story!
The Miller, His Son, and Their Ass
 A Miller and his son were driving their Ass to a neighboring fair to sell him. They had not gone far when they met with a troop of women collected round a well, talking and laughing. "Look there," cried one of them, "did you ever see such fellows, to be trudging along the road on foot when they might ride?” The old man hearing this, quickly made his son mount the Ass, and continued to walk along merrily by his side. Presently they came up to a group of old men in earnest debate. “There," said one of them, "it proves what I was a-saying. What respect is shown to old age in these days? Do you see that idle lad riding while his old father has to walk? Get down, you young scapegrace, and let the old man rest his weary limbs. "Upon this the old man made his son dismount, and got up himself.
In this manner they had not proceeded far when they met a company of women and children. "Why, you lazy old fellow," cried several tongues at once, "how can you ride upon the
beast, while that poor little lad there can hardly keep pace by the side of you?” The good-natured Miller immediately took up his son behind him.
They had now almost reached the town. "Pray, honest friend," said a citizen, "is that Ass your own?” "Yes," replied the old man. "O, one would not have thought so," said the other, "by the way you load him. Why, you two fellows are better able to carry the poor beast than he you." "Anything to please you," said the old man; "we can but try."
So, alighting with his son, they tied the legs of the Ass together and with the help of a pole endeavored to carry him on their shoulders over a bridge near the entrance to the town. This entertaining sight brought the people in crowds to laugh at it, till the Ass, not liking the noise nor the strange handling that he was subject to, broke the cords that bound him and, tumbling off the pole, fell into the river.
Upon this, the old man, vexed and ashamed, made the best of his way home again, convinced that by endeavoring to please everybody he had pleased nobody, and lost his Ass in the bargain.
Moral: Tried to please all and you end up pleasing none.


Successful Sales Manager

A friend of mine is a very successful sales manager. After he had carefully interviewed and then selected a new salesman, he would take to the salesman to a Cadillac dealership and insist that he trade in his old car for a new Cadillac. The salesman would usually balk at the idea. He would be frightened of the cost of the car and the huge monthly payment involved. But the sales manager would insist that he buy the Cadillac as a condition of employment. 
What do you think happened afterwards? First, the salesman would drive the car home and wife would most have a heart attack when she saw that he had bought a new Cadillac. But after she had settled down, he would take her for a ride around the neighborhood in the new car. The neighbors would see them driving in a new Cadillac as he waved on the way past. He would park his new Cadillac in front of his house or in his driveway. People would come over and admire it. Gradually, imperceptibly, at a subconscious level, his attitude toward himself and his earning potential would begin to change.
Within a few days, he would begin to see himself as the kind of person who drove a new Cadillac. He would see himself as a big money earner in his field, one of the top performers in his industry. And time after time, almost without fail, the sales people in this organization became sales superstars. Their sales performance jumped and they earned more than they had ever before. Soon the payment on the new Cadillac were of no concern because their incomes were so much greater. 
Emmet Fox, the spiritual teacher, once said that, “Your main job in life is to create the mental equivalent within yourself of what you want to realize and enjoy in your outer world.” Your focus must be on creating the beliefs within yourself that are consistent with the great success you want to be in your outer world. 
You achieve this by challenging your self-limiting beliefs, rejecting them and then acting as if they did not exist. You reinforce the development of new, life-enhancing beliefs by increasing your knowledge and skills in your field to the point where you feel equal to any demand or challenge. You accelerate the development of new, positive beliefs by setting bigger and more exciting goals in every area. Finally, you act continually as if you were already the person that you desire to be. Your aim is to reprogram your subconscious mind for success by creating the mental equivalent in everything you do or say.


Choose Faith, Not Fear...

Before a comedian takes the microphone, he needs to have faith in his material, not be fearful that no-one will laugh.
Before a tight-rope walker steps onto the rope, he needs to trust his training and technique, not be afraid of falling.
Before a leader launches an innovative initiative, she needs to believe that it will work, not have her mind dominated by lingering doubts.
Before a pilot takes off, he needs to know that the plane will get off the ground safely, not suspect that there will be issues.
Before a football player takes a crucial penalty, he needs to have conviction that the ball will end up in the back of the net, not worry about the implications of a miss.
And before you launch into your goals this year, you have to act in faith, believing in your skills and the purpose to which you have been called, not be fearful of the consequences of failure.
It’s time to choose faith, not fear!


The Trevi Fountain

The Trevi Fountain is one of the most remarkable landmarks of the great city of Rome. Every day, thousands of tourists throw coins over their left shoulder into this icon.
After winning the commission to build the fountain, Nicola Salvi started working on his masterpiece in 1732.  He laboured away for 19 years before dying in 1751, leaving the project unfinished.  A team of designers took over and the Trevi Fountain that we see today was finally completed in 1762.
Do you want to create a masterpiece?
Do you want to develop your skills to an elite level?
Do you want your life’s work to matter?
Remember that greatness takes time.
How much time?
I have no idea, but it could be 10, 20 or even 30 years.
So stay focused, keep working, never stop learning, be relentless and persistent, enjoy the journey, maintain the faith and when you start to lose faith, remember that the Trevi Fountain was worth the wait and so will your masterpiece!


Be the Oxpecker, Be the Trailblazer! 

Oxpeckers are amazing birds. They are a small bird, only about 20 cm long, who get all of their food from landing on large mammals and consuming ticks and other small parasites.Birds are normally flighty and timid, but these guys are incredibly brave, landing on antelopes, wildebeest, cattle and even elephants to gather their food.
But how did it start? Who was the first oxpecker?  Which bird decided that seeds weren’t getting the job done and thought that maybe there were better options on the back of an impala? Because there had to be a first.
There had to be a trailblazer. There had to be one who took the risk and told everyone else that it was going to be OK. Perhaps there is something that you are scared to do. You suspect that it would be a great opportunity, but you don’t know if can be done. And there are others around you who are just as timid.
You can be the first oxpecker.
You can be the trailblazer.
You can change the world.
Be the Oxpecker, Be the Trailblazer! 


Always believe in yourself

A tired bird was resting on a branch for support. It enjoyed the view from the branch and the safety it offered from dangerous animals. Just as it had become used to that branch and the support and safety that it offered, a strong wind started blowing and the branch started swaying back and forth, with such great intensity, that it seemed that it was going to break.
But the bird was not in the least worried for it knew two important truths. One was that even without the branch it was able to fly and thus remain safe through the power of its own two wings. The second is that there are many other branches upon which it can temporarily rest.
This small example represents the ideal relationship between ourselves and our relationships, possessions and social and professional positions. We have the right to enjoy all these, but cannot as long as we are dependent on them and are afraid of losing them. They are all in a state of change and can disappear at any time.
Our real strength dose not lie in those external ephemeral things, but rather on our two internal wings of love and wisdom. These must become our security base, our source of enjoyment and happiness.


A Glass of Milk

One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left, and he was hungry.He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door.  Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water! She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it so slowly, and then asked, How much do I owe you?" You don't owe me anything," she replied. "Mother has taught us never to accept pay for a kindness." He said ... "Then I thank you from my heart."
As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was strong also. He had been ready to give up and quit.Many years later that same young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease.
Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes. Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room. Dressed in his doctor's gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once. He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day he gave special attention to her case. After a long struggle, the battle was won.
Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, and then wrote something on the edge and the bill was sent to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, and something caught her attention on the side of the bill. She read these words ...
"Paid in full with one glass of milk" (Signed) Dr. Howard Kelly. Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed: "Thank You, God, that your love has spread broad through human hearts and hands."
There's a saying which goes something like this: Bread cast on the waters comes back to you. The good deed you do today may benefit you or someone you love at the least expected time. If you Never see the Deed again at least You will have made the World a Better Place - And, After All, Isn't That What Life is All About..?


An Inspirational Story

Once, in Heaven there was a discussion among the Gods to decide where the miraculous secret power, the power by which man can achieve anything in this world was to be kept hidden. One of the Gods suggested that it could be kept hidden in the depths of the Sea. Another said it could be buried on top of high mountains. The third one thought of a cave in the woods as the right place.
At last, the most intelligent among them said, 'Keep it in the depths of man's mind. He will never suspect that the power is hidden there because right from his childhood, his mind is prone to wandering and he will not look within. Only the intelligent among them will look within, and use the power and become great.' All gods agreed. So, do you see that the difference between two people lies in their minds? One knows how to tap its power and the other does not.
So, the truth expressed here is that in the depths of man's mind lies hidden the miraculous power, using which one can become great. Whatever you think, that you will be. If you think yourselves weak, weak you will be; if you think yourselves STRONG, STRONG you will be.


Teaching Right and Wrong

When the Zen Master Bankei held his seclusion-weeks of meditation, pupils from many parts of Japan came to attend. During one of these gatherings a pupil was caught stealing. The matter was reported to Bankei with the request that the culprit be expelled. Bankei, however, ignored the case.

Later the pupil was caught in a similar act. It was reported but again Bankei disregarded the matter. This angered the other pupils, who drew up a petition asking for the expulsion of the thief.  If otherwise, they would leave the gathering.

Bankei read the petition and smiled.  He called everyone before him. "You are wise brothers," he told them. "You know what is right and what is not right. You may go somewhere else to study if you wish, as you are wise.  But this poor brother does not even know right from wrong. Who will teach him if I do not? I am going to keep him here even if all the rest of you leave."
There was complete silence. 

A torrent of tears cleansed the face of the brother who was the thief.  The desire to steal had vanished.  He was a changed man.
Punishment is not the only way to teach right and wrong or wholesome and unwholesome.  Touch the weakness with soft and warm hands or sweet and suggestive words.  It leaves more impact than punishment.


Life is beautiful

Put a frog in a vessel of water and start heating the water. As the temperature of the water rises, the frog is able to adjust its body temperature accordingly. The frog keeps on adjusting with increase in temperature. Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog is not able to adjust anymore. At that point the frog decides to jump out.. 

The frog tries to jump but is unable to do so, because it lost all its strength in adjusting with the water temperature. Very soon the frog dies. What killed the frog?

Many of us would say the boiling water. But the truth is what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when it had to jump out. We all need to adjust with people and situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust and when we need to confront face. There are times when we need to face the situation and take the appropriate action. If we allow people to exploit us physically, mentally, emotionally or financially, they will continue to do so. We have to decide when to jump.

Let us jump while we still have the strength !! Think on It!!


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